sandra Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Hi everyone! My Ex-boyfriend and I had been dating for a year. However, it was a relationship where we both had our guards up, since we had very bad experiences in past relationships. I liked him a lot and was starting to fall for him when we broke up. We rarely get into fights and were more or less compatible. He invited me to come along on his family's vacation. I had so much I had to do but agreed to go along, thinking it would make him happy. Once we got there he started acting strange and not paying attention to me or talk to me in public. He was ignoring me, belittling me and making fun of me. He bad mouthed me to his parents and we had a huge fight where he said very mean, hurtful things. I bought my airplane ticket back to my state and left him and his family at the vacation spot. I wanted to just get away from the entire situation. Once he got back, I called him so we can talk about it. He broke up with me instead. Said I embarrased him by leaving. Anyway, it's been 3 weeks, I sent him an email explaining how bad he made me feel and why I left. He ignored it. I later on found out that he was on an online dating site the day after we broke up. So I created an account too. He texted me and said that he didn't respond to my email because he saw me on the dating site. What! He was on there before me. He gave up on us in one day. I miss him, but do you think it's a good idea to calll him and try to make things work? Was I wrong for leaving?
4givrnt4gtr Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Seriously??? He treated you like crap and you're thinking about going back for more???? Call me crazy but NOOOOO WAY IN HELL should you go back to someone who belitttles you and treats you that way. Sounds like you have a little bit of a self esteem issue if you are sad a jackass like that broke up with you. You so deserve better than that
Author sandra Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 Thanks for the reply. I know I deserve better but can't help but feel that maybe it was my attitude that caused him to act that way. I brought my work to the vacation place and he knew that it was important for me to do so. So basically I sacrificed alot to be with him at the vacation. He has this superiority complex. He wants everything to go his way and is acting like the victim. Apparently, leaving him there was so wrong no matter what the situation. I had a weak moment and called him, he didn't answer so I left a message asking him to call me. He called back half an hour later and I never answered. Suddenly, I didn't know what to say. It's been 2 days since I called, but I realized that I can't make him appologize. It has to come from him. I just need to ask him why he was such a jerk. He's making me out to be the crazy gf who just up and left him while vacationing with his family. Do you think I should call one last time and get closure?
PegNosePete Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Nope, don't call him, don't talk to him again. He's a jerk. The only "closure" you can ever get, comes from yourself. He will never say what you want to hear.
boosh Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 He treated you like crap in front of his family for no reason, and was embarassed that you left? What a creep. Go NC and forget about that loser.
Author sandra Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 Thanks Pegnosepete and Boosh. I won't call him. I just try and figure out why someone would act like that. It's so weird. I think it's because he just can't express himself and talk about his feelings, he just starts acting like an *******. I guess some men like women to run after them and be at their beck and call. And I'm just not that woman. Looking back at our relationship, we did have some serious communication issues. He loved to argue about everything and win. It wouldn't have worked out anyway. Forget about second chances. I'm moving on. Thanks for your advice.
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