Not the love ace Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 When it comes to talking to someone, you expect your friends to be one of the first people you can count on to vent, to cry, to tell your problems too. Unfortunately I don't have that. If I need to vent, the only thing I have is music, video games, working out, drawing/writing. Sometimes though I need human interaction, I need someone who can sit and listen, talk to, give advice. Someone I know well, someone whom I hang out and knows me.Like I said though, I don't have that. What I do have are a few friends who cry to me when the Sh*t hits the fan, when they are down, stressed, depressed need to vent etc, they come and talk to me. They call or text me at all hours of the day or night and vent to me and I listen. I be a friend, I give advice, tips, thoughts if they ask for it and I'm there. What really, really aggravates me though is when I need someone to talk to, they never really listen, don't know what to say or do, or they don't really want to listen. What bothers me even more is that they always tend to think I am in the wrong or don't try and see where I am coming from. I'm a firm believer in if I am wrong, I am wrong. If I am at fault, I don't mind people telling me so. It's just sometimes you don't want to be told that you are wrong or right even. Sometimes you just want people to listen and let you know everything will be okay or that they're there for you. Not always criticize you and that's what really bothers me of my friends. They always just seem to criticize and usually they don't fully understand a whole situation or it just seems like they want to tell me to shut up. I'm just so frustrated that I want to sometimes tell them not to talk to me but I just want to ruin any friendships and be alone. Anyone ever been through this with friends? Do you know where I am coming from?
Amira4210 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 Hi, you've offered me advice before, so now you can find a friend in me, in this :0). I have had the same problem with one friend in particular. IF i see that she is having a bad day on facebook or whatever, ill email her ask if she is ok, then she'll call me and invite me over so we can talk, ill sit on her couch for hours, hear about her bf and her son, and her job and then sometimes ill say "like with me and ______ we have this issue and I can relate" and blah blah, and you know what I get in return......."ya well..." or dead silence. We have been friend for 3 yrs now, and i was getting fed up with it bc we have been closer (to her benefit) and i finally just confronted her about it, and you know what i just got a surface response about how she has enough drama to worry about blah blah. Next time, if you're giving a friend advice, try and bring up a personal situation of yours that relates to the topic and see how they respond, and if they don't just say "I'm sorry, did you hear what i said, or is this a one way" or in nicer words. You have to put your foot down. Sorry you have no one to talk to, i came to this site bc i lost the person i talked to the most, this kind of helps, but its still hard!
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