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So the day has finally come: Ex has a new boyfriend

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So I was carrying about my usual day, actually feeling quite good about myself. Out of nowhere one of my friends (who I dont see that often) texts me : "looks like ur ex has a new squeeze, just saw them at uni"

 

First of all I have no idea why he needed to tell me this, but I'm now in a lot of pain thinking about her and him. She cheated on (hooking up) me for months, lied to me about it and one day left me completely out of the blue. It broke me to the core. I've been feeling much better the last few weeks but this is another nail in the chest.

 

I can't stand the thought of them ****ing and doing stuff that me and my ex used to do. We were both each others first and it really hurts that something she only did with me is now being shared with someone else :(

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She cheated on (hooking up) me for months, lied to me about it and one day left me completely out of the blue....and it really hurts that something she only did with me is now being shared with someone else :(

 

As cruel as it may seem try to think of it from the perspective of he's now getting your "sloppy seconds" and "she'll most likely end up cheating on him too."

 

You deserve better than a cheat and liar.

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I'm pretty sure Skiman (ex) is dating a girl that I had suspected he was interested in prior to our breakup. When I put two-and-two together (this past week), I was annoyed. Really annoyed. But it didn't hurt like I thought it would. More of a, "I knew it!"

 

I did have to tell one of my very good friends when her ex (who's also my good friend) got engaged though. That was a really awkward, tough conversation to have. She was crushed. Still is. :(

 

I think it's tough when your ex enters a new relationship, or even when you do, because then it's REALLY over.

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It must be a terrible feeling man. God knows what my ex is doing right now. I have a feeling she has a secret boyfriend or some crap like that. Whatever man. Don't think about it, you'll do so much better.

 

And tell your friends not to give you anymore details about your ex. Very important my friend.

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Thanks for the support guys.

 

I can only rest in the knowledge that past behaviour is the best indication of future behaviour. So it's more than likely she will treat this new guy the same....

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I feel you on this one because my ex has a new gf also! And is moving with her to another state already to live there!! ugh!! All the other girls i had to deal with, the ones he cheated on me with i knew they were just adventures that he would stop talking to them at one point but this one i guess he is fallin hard for her. Never thought this would ever happen. It sucks, so i know what your feeling. They are now saying sweet things to them like they used to say to us, they are having sex with them something that meant alot for us when we did it with them. ugh!...the pain!

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Isn't it great how friends feel compelled to give hurtful news about exes? :rolleyes:

 

I just found out my ex knocked his girlfriend up. And how happy and delighted he is to be a father. :sick:

 

I feel for you. All you can do is stay the course and keep on making yourself as happy as you can.

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So I was carrying about my usual day, actually feeling quite good about myself. Out of nowhere one of my friends (who I dont see that often) texts me : "looks like ur ex has a new squeeze, just saw them at uni"

 

First of all I have no idea why he needed to tell me this, but I'm now in a lot of pain thinking about her and him. She cheated on (hooking up) me for months, lied to me about it and one day left me completely out of the blue. It broke me to the core. I've been feeling much better the last few weeks but this is another nail in the chest.

 

I can't stand the thought of them ****ing and doing stuff that me and my ex used to do. We were both each others first and it really hurts that something she only did with me is now being shared with someone else :(

I feel for you. I'm going through the exact same thing. I was coping pretty well and then my friend at work had to tell me she saw my ex out at the bars with a girl. Then she proceeded to find out if they were dating or not and had to tell me that they were. I told her from the beginning, that I didn't want to know anything about my ex. She totally didn't care. I'm in a lot of pain right now. I found out that he was with this girl a week before he even told me he wanted to break up. As with your breakup, it was totally out of the blue. He had been acting weird the week before, but I didn't think anything of it. Now I know he was messing around on me. It makes me sick to imagine him with another girl. This girl is 8 years younger than him and 11 years younger then me. Ugh! He dumped me for a kid. The past few days I've been a mess. I barely eat and I feel betrayed. I trusted this person completely and I know he was cheating on me. It's the worst feeling. I never want to see or speak to him again. He's been told that by a mutual friend. My ex is dead to me now.

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Isn't it great how friends feel compelled to give hurtful news about exes? :rolleyes:

 

Yea what is up with that? I specifically told my friend: NEVER TELL ME IF YOU SEE MY EX OUT OR WITH ANOTHER GIRL! She still had to do it. It's cruel. Now I'm a mess all over again.:mad:

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On an amusing sexual side-note, the first time my ex left me, the guy she dated/lived with for almost two years turned out to be gay! :laugh:

 

:lmao::lmao: This made my day.

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Isn't it great how friends feel compelled to give hurtful news about exes? :rolleyes:

 

Yea what is up with that? I specifically told my friend: NEVER TELL ME IF YOU SEE MY EX OUT OR WITH ANOTHER GIRL! She still had to do it. It's cruel. Now I'm a mess all over again.:mad:

 

Yeh especially if that "friend" is Myspace. Its been two months now for me, no contact, and I was doing pretty well, very well in fact. For some reason this week I have been having all sorts of thoughts about her out of the blue (anyone know why?!) so I had a look at myspace to see what she was up to. She de-friended me a few weeks after we broke up but I still had a quick look through the photos.

 

Don't know what I was expecting but the moment I saw her pretty face with some new guy I felt like vomitting out my heart on the floor. She is beautiful, not like everyone doesn't say that about their ex, but she really is. This guy is sick. About 15 years older than her, weighty and slimey. Obviously just wealthy. Photos of them together in hotels. I know its hard for all of us, but when its with someone you know she shouldn't be with, what do you do?

 

This thread, and website is great by the way. I can now fully see why its best to shut these people out altogether, as just like you ShannonMI, I'm a mess all over again.

 

I know its harsh, but cut the ties. Keep away from their social network page!

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Yeh especially if that "friend" is Myspace. Its been two months now for me, no contact, and I was doing pretty well, very well in fact. For some reason this week I have been having all sorts of thoughts about her out of the blue (anyone know why?!) so I had a look at myspace to see what she was up to. She de-friended me a few weeks after we broke up but I still had a quick look through the photos.

 

Don't know what I was expecting but the moment I saw her pretty face with some new guy I felt like vomitting out my heart on the floor. She is beautiful, not like everyone doesn't say that about their ex, but she really is. This guy is sick. About 15 years older than her, weighty and slimey. Obviously just wealthy. Photos of them together in hotels. I know its hard for all of us, but when its with someone you know she shouldn't be with, what do you do?

 

This thread, and website is great by the way. I can now fully see why its best to shut these people out altogether, as just like you ShannonMI, I'm a mess all over again.

 

I know its harsh, but cut the ties. Keep away from their social network page!

Yea any social network sites, I steer clear from. No myspace and no facebook. I haven't ever gone on those sites anyway. I've always thought they were just trouble. My ex has both myspace and facebook. I have no desire to see what my ex is doing and what the new girl in his life looks like. That's the last thing I need. I don't like torturing myself. That's why I tell all my friends "if you see him, do not tell me." "If he's with a girl, do not tell me." Some friends seem not to care though. The friend that told me is currently breaking up with her boyfriend, so perhaps misery loves company. Who knows.

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