What is your current situation my friends?

[lullaby]

How are you all doing?

 

I don't know exactly why I started this thread but I just wanted to know what is the first thought that comes through your mind right now, at this moment.

 

How would you describe your feelings for your ex right now? Are you still in touch with him/her? Are you currently dating someone else? Still coping with NC? Having LC?

 

Just a general thread with an update of all my fellow LS friends

[Iselia]

How are you all doing?

 

I don't know exactly why I started this thread but I just wanted to know what is the first thought that comes through your mind right now, at this moment.

 

How would you describe your feelings for your ex right now? Are you still in touch with him/her? Are you currently dating someone else? Still coping with NC? Having LC?

 

Just a general thread with an update of all my fellow LS friends

 

I still love her and miss her terribly. It's been 4.5 months broken up. I started NC 2 weeks ago finally. I just don't want to deal with her while she's acting so f*cking immature. I want a woman, not a girl. I'm not dating anyone new, and I don't plan to until I graduate college. Might wait until I'm done with grad school. NC is really hard. I keep wanting to pick up the phone and call her, but I know any better. Anything we talked after the breakup, was only to ease her guilt. She doesn't care about my feelings and she hasn't for a while now.

 

How about you?

[Username37]

How are you all doing?

 

I don't know exactly why I started this thread but I just wanted to know what is the first thought that comes through your mind right now, at this moment.

 

How would you describe your feelings for your ex right now? Are you still in touch with him/her? Are you currently dating someone else? Still coping with NC? Having LC?

 

Just a general thread with an update of all my fellow LS friends

 

Hey lullaby!

 

My feelings for my ex? It's a roller coaster. At times I'm really pissed and other times, I miss her like mad. Today emotion: apathetic

 

Still in touch? Nope. 2 months of NC my friend. And I go to school with her.

 

Dating? Nope. Taking a break for a while haha

 

Coping with NC? It's not really a killer anymore. Haven't been tempted to break it.

 

LC? Hell no!

 

How are you lull?

[lullaby]

I still love her and miss her terribly. It's been 4.5 months broken up. I started NC 2 weeks ago finally. I just don't want to deal with her while she's acting so f*cking immature. I want a woman, not a girl. I'm not dating anyone new, and I don't plan to until I graduate college. Might wait until I'm done with grad school. NC is really hard. I keep wanting to pick up the phone and call her, but I know any better. Anything we talked after the breakup, was only to ease her guilt. She doesn't care about my feelings and she hasn't for a while now.

 

How about you?

 

Good. Focus on graduating and finish that which is more important right now. Sometimes these tough moments help us focus on what is more concrete and tangible in our lives, right?

 

If you felt that having contact with her was hurting you, then your decision is the right one. Of course NC is hard, but you'll get through it. You deserve better.

 

Hey lullaby!

 

My feelings for my ex? It's a roller coaster. At times I'm really pissed and other times, I miss her like mad. Today emotion: apathetic

 

Still in touch? Nope. 2 months of NC my friend. And I go to school with her.

 

Dating? Nope. Taking a break for a while haha

 

Coping with NC? It's not really a killer anymore. Haven't been tempted to break it.

 

LC? Hell no!

 

How are you lull?

 

Hi my friend! Yeah, I've been following your log but got lost int he middle of it to answer something

Great news you're feeling apathetic today and that NC is not a killer anymore. You're getting stronger by the day, that's for sure.

I think that feelings of hate and love are always gonna be there, right? that special person will always be that someone you loved once, and it always be that someone who broke your heart, quite a dichotomy, isn't it?

 

 

I'm doing very well these days. As some of you know my ex still contacts me, even if I show no emotion or reciprocity to him, he keeps coming back. I'm not planning on getting back with him at the moment, it's my time now and I told him that and he said he would wait. It's been 5 months since the break up already and I'm re-discovering myself. It feels great!!!! Believe me, the more time passes, the less you feel about that person.

 

I do miss him at times, some others I don't. I know he's just a phonecall away because too much has occurred between us already and talking to him doesn't hurt anymore, I'm past that, but I still try to keep as much distance as possible and go on my own way. Weird huh?

 

Thanks for replying you guys

[LoveTruthChaos]

How would you describe your feelings for your ex right now? Are you still in touch with him/her? Are you currently dating someone else? Still coping with NC? Having LC?

 

NC for life.

Haven't heard from him since he dumped me so unceremoniously for the girl he was cheating on me with.

I know I'll never hear from him again.

I'm at almost 5 months post breakup, and last night I couldn't stop crying.

Doing good today.

Dating? Not interested. I've been too hurt to trust again.

I'm going to become a lesbian.

[Dante311]

I am in no emotional state for a relationship.

 

I am still emotionally sick. And it sucks.

[Trimmer]

Let's see - my feelings toward my ex right now? They would be completely neutral, except for the fact that we have kids together and we still share parenting. So my feelings about her are mostly related to the linkage we have through our kids. I want her to be safe and comfortable, and whole as a person so she can continue to be the best mother she can.

 

We have a fair amount of contact, and the one part I don't like is when we have something to work out on which we don't agree. That's when I actually start to feel some resentment, like people who are married work out parenting disagreements, but they have the foundation of a marriage that they can rely on to hold them together. I've pretty much moved on from our marriage issues (split for 5 years, divorce final for the last 2) but this is the one remaining time I kind of resent that she walked away from the marriage, because I feel like there's no framework, no supporting structure of the marriage to give us safe haven when we are disagreeing.

 

But that's pretty minor. Other than the fact that we are still, inextricably linked by our shared parenting roles, I've pretty much moved on, emotionally.

[TG4MJ]

Well, things were always weird with me and my ex from the moment she became my ex. I tried getting back into the dating scene but that's just been one epic Columbian clusterf*** of disaster from the get go. Out of nowhere we'd just casually hook up but recently we've been talking reconsiliation. At the moment were taking things slowly, just testing the waters and seeing what happens. So far, so good.

[Thorgs]

Still coping and 28th day of NC, but...life sucks then you die, right?

 

Oh, and starting tomorrow, I have to see her youngest daughter every day for the whole school year, FML.

[PegNosePete]

I am apprehensive because I have to meet her this Saturday, she is coming to collect her stuff from my garage. NC for 2 weeks now. I expect we'll discuss some things too, like the divorce. It won't be much fun.

[commonlife]

I can't understand what I am feeling.

We have been hoocking up and breaking up for a few months. Each time is the same old story.

I am in total NC for a week now, I feed like it is useless to go on like this. I dated a great girl last week but dumped her after a few days, I couldn't get into it and didn't want to make her suffer.

I am pissed off at her immature bahaviour althought I miss her I have to stay away from her.

I am not ready to date anyone else for sure and I know I will need time to trust someone now.

[shiftedblue]

One month broken up, one month NC. I'm doing well, though still lonely often. But life is not so bad.

[chenazah]

Up, down and a bit sideways. Much better then i was a few days ago when i thought my whole world was caving in. Trying my best at rationalising my situation and motivating myself to achieve better.......for myself.

Its tough but what else can you do? moping around feeling sorry for yourself is not going to get you anywhere. Take it on the chin, get back up and start again.

Im looking forward to focusing my energy and trust into myself rather than someone else. I want to learn to put myself first.

 

Im going to make my business successful, im going to go out and see my family in Australia, im going to pay off my debts, im going to play football again, im going to stop smoking and im going to retake my guitar lessons. Why did i ever let being with someone stop me from doing what i want to do? Its crazy and wont happen again.

Over time i will be able to trust again and open my heart BUT not yet.....this time is my time.

[Da_1_n_OnlyN3na]

Well, i think i am in the worst situation i could ever be. After so many times i rejected and insulted my ex whenever he tried to bulshyt me with trying to get back with me telling me he wanted to start all over with me and would cry and begg to get back with me, i always rejected him. Especially, when i found out he had gotten a little girl pregnant while he was with me and could not forgive him for that. I wanted him to leave me alone so i could forget about him and everything he had ever done to me for 3+ years.

 

Now, his babymama is about to pop, he has been dating another girl who is also very young and seems like he really likes her alot. I started talking to him as friends and forgave him for everything and felt very relieved that i did that because i could not hold hate in my heart for him anymore. He said he still had feelings for me and his current gf knew about it and he was confused. But he is staying with her, doesnt believe that i want to be with him and he said it was too late anyways. Since there is no point of me being friends with him while i watch him be happy with someone else thats not me, i told him i could not be friends anymore, i dont know why but he kept saying i was fake and everything i say to him is BS. He is leaving this weekend to another state with his gf to live there.

 

I guess, this is what i wanted right?......

[Gdunkman]

My situation is following, we broke up more then a month before, i started NC 2 weeks ago (LC actually, because I received messages from her), I thought she was with another guy. We messaged yesterday and I didn't feel bad because of it. She declares she doesn't have a boyfriend and didn't have any after me, that she misses me and feels stupid, because she realized that our relations were not bad.

 

I've decided to have another NC period for about 2 weeks. it's a perfect strategy.

[ShannonMI]

Ugh! I'm not doing good at all. I was coping pretty well, but then I found out my ex is dating a college kid and was messing around with her the week before he even told me he wanted to break up. He must have been trying out the goods before he decided to officially end things with me. I thought we had a great relationship and it just kills me that he threw away 8 years to be with this young kid. I'm totally sick to my stomach. It's all I think about now. Not that I wasn't thinking about my ex non-stop before, but now I imagine him with someone else. Yuck!

 

As for NC, he told me 3 weeks ago when I was ready to be friends and let him see the dog we used to have together, to contact him. Well now that I know this girl is in the picture and was before the break up, I've since told him I never want to hear from him again. I am disgusted with everything he's done to me. I know all of it and I will never be in contact with him again. He makes me sick. It sucks because I thought he was a really great guy. I trusted him with my life. He betrayed me and it's the worst feeling.

 

As for dating, hell no! I am so thrown for a loop over this whole cheating thing, that I may never give my heart to another person again. Maybe in a few years, but not anytime soon. My heart is a big wounded mess right now and it will be for a very long time.

[chocolate_boy]

How are you all doing?

 

I don't know exactly why I started this thread but I just wanted to know what is the first thought that comes through your mind right now, at this moment.

 

How would you describe your feelings for your ex right now? Are you still in touch with him/her? Are you currently dating someone else? Still coping with NC? Having LC?

 

Just a general thread with an update of all my fellow LS friends

 

I'd held out hope for the last 2 weeks, NC for few days, spoke last night and she said she feels we're not "clicking" like we used to and she's happy to be friends but nothing more. Felt like my heart had been ripped from my chest, but at least I got an answer.

 

Day 1 of NC today then, here we go again!

[BeagleGal]

Whenever I think about what my ex did to me, the damage he has caused me because of his stupid, selfish, irresponsible, narcissistic behavior, I just get so f'n pissed! I used to be sad and depressed, understandably as this man has broken my heart like nothing else. But now that I've had time and space and Nc for a month now, I'm livid.

 

He's as*hole. And I hate that I still waste precious brain cells on his sorry a**.

[PegNosePete]

BiAx - thank goodness you didn't marry her and have a kid before you found out she was a skank. You dodged a bullet there. Me... I just got a light graze (married but no kids).

[BeagleGal]

BiAxident: It took a while to reach this stage. Not to say that I still dont get sad at times but not as much as I used. And I'm no longer depressed about the breakup. I've recovered and am not harming myself any longer by not eating, losing weight and just not taking care of me. He's not worth it.

My ex promised me the moon, the stars, the planetary system and anything beyond. I thought for sure by this time we'd be engaged. And so did everyone else cuz everyone could see "how crazy he was about me". We talked about marriage, kids, travel, retirement - all of it. And you know what that sorry ass mother f*cker did? When he married the OW a month ago, they held their reception at the same place HE AND I LOOKED AT TOGETHER FOR US. Now aside from everything else he's done to me, how f*cked is that?

 

He's a user (using new wife for $$ from what his friend told me a week before wedding) and a POS. I can't be sad over someone like that. But angry, hell yeah.

 

I am envious of you having reached the anger stage. My ex said that we would do "whatever it takes" to make our relationship work. She really made me believe that she wanted me "for me" -- which were pretty much the exact words she used. We discussed marriage, children, traveling, the whole deal. Then she left me for a guy, "love at first sight", she said.

[collegeguy_24]

For me, its been about 3 1/2 weeks since we broke up, and today marks exactly one week NC. Its so hard, especially since I want to talk to her. But I haven't, I have remained strong and have started to better myself.

 

I still hope she comes back, especially if what I heard could be true, but if she doesn't, I will still be the better person, I will still be the strong person, and a successful person.

[ShannonMI]

BiAxident: It took a while to reach this stage. Not to say that I still dont get sad at times but not as much as I used. And I'm no longer depressed about the breakup. I've recovered and am not harming myself any longer by not eating, losing weight and just not taking care of me. He's not worth it.

My ex promised me the moon, the stars, the planetary system and anything beyond. I thought for sure by this time we'd be engaged. And so did everyone else cuz everyone could see "how crazy he was about me". We talked about marriage, kids, travel, retirement - all of it. And you know what that sorry ass mother f*cker did? When he married the OW a month ago, they held their reception at the same place HE AND I LOOKED AT TOGETHER FOR US. Now aside from everything else he's done to me, how f*cked is that?

 

He's a user (using new wife for $$ from what his friend told me a week before wedding) and a POS. I can't be sad over someone like that. But angry, hell yeah.

 

What a scumbag. You are better off without his sorry a**! Karma's a bi*ch and he will get his.

[LostInTurn]

I'm afraid to write 'I'm ok'; however, I think I am.

 

I have been trying to keep busy. I still think about things, but it's much better than being alone and having my mind race. I have been spending a lot of time with friends, helping my friend paint his house, I spent today playing tennis, running and just doing random stuff.

 

Next week I am going to California. My friend is back visiting for awhile, and I was sitting around the other night thinking about it. I called him and asked when he was leaving. I asked if I could go too. He said absolutely. This is nothing I would ever have done in my life before. I feel as though I've spent the past month crying and bring upset, but over what? I won't lose anymore time by being however I'll be in another state, right? So, I'm going. Besides, it's comforting knowing you have friends who care about you enough that they would do anything to see you smile. That's an awesome thing to realize.

[BeagleGal]

Thank you, Shannon. You're absolutely right in that I am better off without his weak, pathetic a**. Its reassuring to hear he will get his because someone like him doesn't deserve to cruise through life smoothly whilst leaving destruction behind.

 

BTW, cute pooch!

 

What a scumbag. You are better off without his sorry a**! Karma's a bi*ch and he will get his.

[ShannonMI]

Thank you, Shannon. You're absolutely right in that I am better off without his weak, pathetic a**. Its reassuring to hear he will get his because someone like him doesn't deserve to cruise through life smoothly whilst leaving destruction behind.

 

BTW, cute pooch!

Thank you! That's Miloh, my baby. I feel like I'd be a lot worse off if I didn't have him. I've been through hell these past 4 months. He's helped quite a bit.