missner Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Hey Loveshack, I have a much longer post with the full story here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t243933/ but rather than require you to read that, I have a much simpler question on this section. My ex and I had a great relationship, but I made a comment that could be interpreted as me having a problem with her weight. She broke up with me. I later explained that it was partially an insecurity I had with myself, and I only wanted to help her through some of her weight issues anyways. The breakup was 3 months ago, we were friends in the meantime, but when I brought up the relationship again, she said she didn't think she could ever feel the same way about me again. Have any people here gotten back together with an ex, after you broke up with them because of a remark they made about your weight? (Or if anyone has experience with that).
iLovedHer Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Weight issues are common .. Like .. there are girls who really are thin as F#$% and keep complaining about every single thing regarding their weight. Most of them do it.. it's kinda , seeking some self-confidence or something.. bull**** , idk .. But I only know that that's definitely not a thing to break up a relation 'cause of. I mean, that's kinda childish. I'm really sorry for I didn't read the whole story I don't have time atm. , but it's something you two should resolve, no need to break up cause of such thing. At least my opinion. Cheers ^^
Author missner Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 Weight issues are common .. Like .. there are girls who really are thin as F#$% and keep complaining about every single thing regarding their weight. Most of them do it.. it's kinda , seeking some self-confidence or something.. bull**** , idk .. But I only know that that's definitely not a thing to break up a relation 'cause of. I mean, that's kinda childish. I'm really sorry for I didn't read the whole story I don't have time atm. , but it's something you two should resolve, no need to break up cause of such thing. At least my opinion. Cheers ^^ I of course agree, but she was so crushed that she felt I was going through a weekend together while not viewing her as being beautiful, basically her words. She did break up with me over it though. Her self esteem wasn't amazing beforehand, she probably feared I may mention it, and when I did, it was like all the worst things coming true I assume
StalledGirl Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 (edited) I don't think you will get back together to be honest if it's been three months. Self esteem is very fragile when you are different to others physically and her confidence in your love and acceptence has gone. I don't know what you said to her but she must be feeling very hurt. Imagine if she mentioned your small penis (i'm not saying you have one) , wouldn't you feel unable to continue with the relationship due to paranoia and insecurity? Although it's not paranoia if you have actually made a negative comment about her weight and confirmed her worse fears- you don't like her body and weight. Have you tried having a long talk about it? Or writing a detailed email? Edited September 1, 2010 by StalledGirl
liveforluck Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 fatty!!!! hahahahaha that's pathetic. i **** **** up just kill him, and make sure to bury the body and tell no one abot the location thats how they always get caught
Author missner Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 I don't think you will get back together to be honest if it's been three months. Self esteem is very fragile when you are different to others physically and her confidence in your love and acceptence has gone. I don't know what you said to her but she must be feeling very hurt. Imagine if she mentioned your small penis (i'm not saying you have one) , wouldn't you feel unable to continue with the relationship due to paranoia and insecurity? Although it's not paranoia if you have actually made a negative comment about her weight and confirmed her worse fears- you don't like her body and weight. Have you tried having a long talk about it? Or writing a detailed email? I did both, it didn't do much other than inform her of how I felt (I still find her beautiful, I wanted us to go to the gym together so we keep at it, I was insecure for my own reasons that weren't just her, and that was half of the line I said to her)
iLovedHer Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Sometimes I just felt like talking to her about weight , discussing it , but I was kinda fat before, now there's something wrong with me last 2 months I don't have appetite or anything , I lost about 7 kg, I'm on my way to become fit via disease or something , lol. Anyways , my ex , I find her really beautiful despite any mentioned fact. You can see she gained some weight, and puts even more pressure on it by constantly repeating it to me, but I have a feeling that she just wants some self esteem and to hear that she's not fat - from my mouth. The thing is , it simply can't be discussed, the first thing said about weight, not related to anything to her , her answer is: "That's it , you think im fat. :SSSS" I've also heard some girls are nice and pretty but they don't have boobs/ass , and they gain weight in purpose to grow these parts... I mean , WHAT THE F#$% .. and after all, they complain? .. no plz.
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