Hendrix Posted February 19, 2004 Posted February 19, 2004 ok, i know everyone has a different story but ill try and make this as short as possible... OK, im 17 and my gf is 18 we went out for 2 years (yea i know young) and she broke up with me a few weeks ago as in a break (but an actual break up) and she needs time on her own... i took this badly and felt crap for a long time - still do and i see her once every 2 weeks or so, she was the closest and bestest person i knew... But she goes out on the weekends to clubs and stuff and i jus worry all the time i miss her lots But on saturday she ended up kissing a guy and he got her no. But the guy followed her home she was in a taxi but i was worried sick over this its bad enough that she kissed him and gave her his no. but he followed her home i just feel sick and hate to think of her with someone else its just a terrible feeling But she seemed to move on and not be worried at all but i cant stand any of this, im not sure what to do... i doubt ill meet anyone like her, she was almost to good but i just need some advice what to do... i know i have to move on and i will in time, but i honestly dont really want to I dont know what to do... any help will be appreciated, Thx thats pretty much the problem now, I jus miss her still
Author Hendrix Posted February 19, 2004 Author Posted February 19, 2004 heh thx, kinda made me feel a small bit better you got any help with my prob though!?? http://www.SSdownloads.rocks.it theres sound eg and pics of my equipment n stuff there...
dario Posted February 19, 2004 Posted February 19, 2004 I've been in a similar situation before and I know that this is going to sound hard....but you might have to walk away. Just leave it be. With that no contact deal. Maybe a courtesy call down the track with a, 'Hey, how ya doin?' but hold your cards to your chest.
luvcrazy02 Posted February 20, 2004 Posted February 20, 2004 Okay...the thing is...you need to move on. I know you don't want to right now, and you think she is god's gift so to speak, but sometime...you will meet someone else and wonder why you hung on for so long. I've been in your situation before. I was dating this guy for a while, and nothing was going wrong. He decided that he needed some time for himself too. I also took a hard fall, and he treated me like gold, so I had no resentment towards him. I was tore up for a long time, and I waited to see if anything was going to happen...and it didn't. He was going out dancing and stuff like that, and meeting new people. I started going out myself, and working. I met another guy and started hanging out with him...and eventually I fell in love with this guy. Then I started thinking about how tore up I was over the last guy, and I couldn't believe it. If I knew that I was going to meet someone else...I wouldn't have been so down over that guy. For every one that doesn't work out...there's always someone better waiting for you. Good luck!
Author Hendrix Posted February 20, 2004 Author Posted February 20, 2004 i know i Should move one but its hard, i duno its a bitch really! she was just a nice person and its hard to find nice people! its just a pain in the a$$ right now...
Dixiecron Posted February 20, 2004 Posted February 20, 2004 You don't need her. Taking a break is the same as a breakup. What you need is to not answer her phone calls, and delete her e-mail and throw out anything that reminds you of her. If any of those things are flammable, then it is time to have your own little Monterey Pop Festival. What you need even more is to lock yourself in at home with a case (or two) of Guinness and learn how to play Machine Gun. I 100% percent guaruntee you'll feel better (well, maybe not in the morning). When you understand the part where Jimi says "your cheap talk can't hurt me no more", then you've got it... Go down into that pain, don't try to fight it, and let your guitar become your new woman. Don't pick up the phone, pick up the guitar. Unlike the girl she won't leave, and the more you give her, the more she'll give back. She might even bring you a woman that actually loves you for real. Time to learn how to play blues, son...
Author Hendrix Posted February 20, 2004 Author Posted February 20, 2004 heh dude i like you + miller works fine + a hella lota things remind me of her heh she was here for most of the cool stuff i got + she used to stay over alot and stuff so i miss that to, But the part thats the worst is when i picture her with someone else! you just get ther worst feeling ever.. but your prob right + as for guitars i sleep with my guitars man + ima big fan of blues its just **** right now!
Dixiecron Posted February 20, 2004 Posted February 20, 2004 Doesn't matter if the stuff is cool. It's just shyt. You don't need it. As for her being with someone else, you don't need to worry about that. If she gets passed around by the rugby team, you can laugh at them knowing you had her first. They're getting your sloppy seconds. Best song is Hear My Train A Comin'. If you've got the one from Atlanta 1970, or the one from Fillmore East, or the acoustic version, you've got everything you need for now. If you don't have it, get out and look for it. Maybe you meet a young redhead who wants to help you get over your last girl... Worked for me. Sleeping with your guitars is a good thing, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. They just don't get it. Like Louis Armstrong said, if you gotta ask, you ain't never gonna know. Some blues to open your mind: Junior Kimbrough RL Burnside Son House John Lee Hooker And when you're ready, add in the Ray Charles. As an aside, do you know of Paddy Casey? I heard his first album a fews years ago, but I only know a few people (in my neck of the woods) who have ever heard of him.
Dixiecron Posted February 20, 2004 Posted February 20, 2004 Dyermaker, While we all know that the soul of a woman was made below (heh!), can you honestly say that Jimmy Page is the answer? Now if you told him to go listen to Ramble On, or even better Stairway to Heaven (that bigger and better thing always happens at some point or other, doesn't it?) I might agree with you. But in the end, if you have to have your way, then at least tell him to give No Quarter. That would be the best I think...
bklyncg Posted February 21, 2004 Posted February 21, 2004 HEY DUDE, I BEEN THRU ALMOST THE SAME THING, ME AND MY CHICK WERE DATEING FOR A YEAR AND I DECIDED TO JOIN THE MILLITARY, I GOT STATIONED 700 MILES FROM HOME AND IT WAS HARD. SHE WOULD GO TO CLUBS AND HANG OUT WITH GROUPS OF PEOPLE AND I WOULD GET SO JELLOUS. I FOUND OUT SHE CHEATED ON ME A FEW TIMES AND IT TORE ME APART. AFTER ABOUT SIX MONTHS WENT BY WE DECIDED THAT SHE WAS GONA MOVE IN WITH ME, LASTED ABOUT THREE MONTHS AND THEN SHE WENT HOME, AGAIN FIGHTING FIGHTING FIGHTING,. I STILL TALK TO HER THESE DAYS , AND I GUESS WE STILL CONSIDER OURSELVS TO BE TOGETHER BUT THERES ALAWYS GONNA BE THAT SMALL RESENTMENT. MY ADVICE TO YOU IS , GET OUT WHILE ITS STILL EARLY, GET YOURSELF A JACK JHONSON CD AND MOVE ON. MEET NEW PEOPLE, GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS, AND DONT CALL HER, SHELL CALL YOU IF SHE WANTS. SOMETHING MY MOTHER ALAWYS TOLD ME, AND I LIVE BY IT IS ," IF ITS MENT TO BE, IT WILL BE" JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH AND YOU CHIN UP AND ULL BE OK.
Author Hendrix Posted February 21, 2004 Author Posted February 21, 2004 well i got some news.... she came over yesterday cause we have'nt seen each other in week and a half and she might come up every so often but i was fine with that i wasnt gona try anything well a part of me wanted to but i was not going to but we jus talking about things and stuff but we were jus huggin and stuff but then we kissed she kinda kissed me but we still both did then we ended up having sex but i dont think it meant anything =\ id love to get back together but im pretty sure she doesnt, she said she doesnt want the commitment but we were fine and kissing yesterday, i think we just missed each other but i duno now!
Author Hendrix Posted February 22, 2004 Author Posted February 22, 2004 ok we ended up going to the same nightclub on saturday im posting this right now when im drunk but she kissed another guy right in front of me today and i really am ****ed up. i dont know what to do, shes a pretty girl and fellas do come onto her but she kissed a guy right in fron tof me while the sweet child of mine solo was played and it hurt so bad im seriously ****ed up and i feel ****ing awfull its **** i ****ing hate women but her but she ****ed off in front of me with some **** head guy.... aw jesus im drunk now but **** sake im pissed. **** she cud be ****ing the guy right now.... ****! aw jesus IM ****edep the people in the nightclub also lost my coat... bastards.... im oretty pissed. she can piss off thats ****ing it... im pissed ill miss her 2mo or whatever but reight now she can **** off... see im really drunk.... sorry to all and to all i offended but im drunk ok.. sorry.. im also pissed > how will i sleep its like 5am!!! ****!
Dixiecron Posted February 22, 2004 Posted February 22, 2004 Time to pick up that guitar again. Have you read any of the other posts on this board? No contact means no contact for a reason. Girls give you that "taking a break, I need space" line so they can go out and hook up with and bang other guys and still have a security blanket to fall back on in case they don't meet someone they like better. She wants you to be that security blanket, and proably enjoys knowing that she can sleep with you one night and then hook up with another guy right in front of you and you just take it like, well, like a girl. F**k that. Just walk. When she decides she wants to come back to you, she will say it was perfectly OK for her to sleep with a dozen guys in the meantime, because you two were "on a break". Here's the deal. You are not "on a break", you are over. Forget that "if its meant to be" crap. "If its meant to be" implies that there are external issues, like work, family emergencies, illness, etc. that are keeping you apart. NOT her desire to act like a skank. This girl broke up with you but didn't have the guts to just come out and say it, so she thinks that by "getting some space" she is letting you down easy and weaning you off of her. No one has ever done this to her before, so she has no idea what kind of pain this causes.
Author Hendrix Posted February 22, 2004 Author Posted February 22, 2004 know ur right man but its just a pain in the ass and i was a bit ecentric last night to... sorry about that but i duno its all over the place... I think i will do my best to get over her... but to be honest i dont wanna be alone it just sucks!
dario Posted February 22, 2004 Posted February 22, 2004 Hendrix...same sort of stuff happened to me. I remember being at a party and I told my then gf that I was tired and was going to crash. She was all for it. 'Go sleep,' she said lovingly, 'Go sleep...' So I went off to crash and, I dunno, I just couldn't. So, I got up and wandered through the last dregs of the party goers and saw her on the couch getting busy with some guy. I just walked right past her...through the hall, through the kitchen and out the back gate. Granted I went to the nearest pub to continue drinking... She called and called and called. Best decision of my life to just get the hell out and live without her. We weren't even taking an official 'break'.
dario Posted February 22, 2004 Posted February 22, 2004 Oh, and dyermaker - yes, JIMMY PAIGE IS A GOD.
Author Hendrix Posted February 22, 2004 Author Posted February 22, 2004 yea i went out on friday and saturday and got drunk but on sat i went to the same place as her, like all my friends etc were goin so i just went along to see what the fuss is about its a trendy club well not trendy but i was the only guy with long hair there heh u should have seen the bad looks i got! but what pissed me off the most was her kissin the guy BUt during the ****ing sweet child of mine solo!!! i done a few gigs playing loadsa g n r songs and the one song i can actually like she ksised the guy! how **** is that i told her to ring me today and ill tell her the score... to be honest its her loss! she doesnt want the commitment but i just keep chaning my mind ya know like i hate her one min then miss her the next... i still love her but she doesnt realise all the hurt in this... its a bitch..
Author Hendrix Posted February 22, 2004 Author Posted February 22, 2004 any women have any advice?? see what the opposite sex thinks... + they lost my coat last night to!!!! so overall it was a great day for me!
Elle Posted February 22, 2004 Posted February 22, 2004 [color=blue][/color] Hi HENDRIX It will be ok your the sort of guy that will get burnt, learn and move on I know age doesnt matter but Im guessing your younger than me what doesnt kill you makes you stronger and hey it could be worse just think you could be nearly40 and running out of options finding out someone you care about is seemlingly moving on its tough but it could be her away of (1) dealing with things like you (2) tying to provoke a reation (3) not being worth it in the first place the problem is we have to dealwith all of the above and work out their feelings Take care the fact your on this site and not s****ging her friend is a sign that you are a good guy and anyone who like Bon Jovi is ok in my book
Author Hendrix Posted February 23, 2004 Author Posted February 23, 2004 Originally posted by Dixiecron Doesn't matter if the stuff is cool. It's just shyt. You don't need it. As for her being with someone else, you don't need to worry about that. If she gets passed around by the rugby team, you can laugh at them knowing you had her first. They're getting your sloppy seconds. Best song is Hear My Train A Comin'. If you've got the one from Atlanta 1970, or the one from Fillmore East, or the acoustic version, you've got everything you need for now. If you don't have it, get out and look for it. Maybe you meet a young redhead who wants to help you get over your last girl... Worked for me. Sleeping with your guitars is a good thing, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. They just don't get it. Like Louis Armstrong said, if you gotta ask, you ain't never gonna know. Some blues to open your mind: Junior Kimbrough RL Burnside Son House John Lee Hooker And when you're ready, add in the Ray Charles. As an aside, do you know of Paddy Casey? I heard his first album a fews years ago, but I only know a few people (in my neck of the woods) who have ever heard of him. Just about the paddy casey thing yea i do know him he's gettin pretty famous here right now... But just to tell you my cousins damien rice heh they have a similr kinda a music and hes famous to he has a bunch of US and canada tours lined up if u like paddy casey you'll like him... so jus look intoo him if u dont know him... and as for the break/breakup situation... i dont think shes talking to me i txt and rang her and asked her friend to tell her to ring me... I want to tell her my final thoughs about how she didnt actually tell me we broke up... and all the stuff that happened recently i want to tell her the stuff in a moving on kinda way, put my cards on the table and see How it goes it takes to to make a relationship work and by her not communicatin even after the break up its like shes runnin from her problems + this never happened to her so she doesnt know how much pain and hurts involved.... Thats a kinda positive post huh well i still feel likie ****... i only ate like twice in the last 2 days I just feel sick when i picturin her kissin the other guy, maked me wana throw up =/ but kidna makes me angry!, women are strange.
Dixiecron Posted February 24, 2004 Posted February 24, 2004 Cool. Always nice to know you were listening to someone popular years before everyone else heard of him. I'll have to check for Damien Rice the next time I'm at the record store. As for the texting, don't do it. Read the no contact rules and memorize them. The rules are for you, not for her. If you keep talking to and seeing her it makes the pain last longer.
dario Posted February 24, 2004 Posted February 24, 2004 Hey, we here in Australia (some of us...) know of Damien Rice. That's pretty cool that's he's your cousin. Hey, ever heard of Wilco...Billy Bragg (different pot of tea compared to GNS etc) but they have some nice tunes. Sorry - don't want to make this a music thread...but it's nice to hear other's musical tastes.
Author Hendrix Posted February 24, 2004 Author Posted February 24, 2004 Originally posted by Dixiecron Cool. Always nice to know you were listening to someone popular years before everyone else heard of him. I'll have to check for Damien Rice the next time I'm at the record store. As for the texting, don't do it. Read the no contact rules and memorize them. The rules are for you, not for her. If you keep talking to and seeing her it makes the pain last longer. yea i wanted to talk to her and tell her the score that im not going to be hanging around and that she didnt want to tell me we were breakin up so we wanted a break its only human to care but she didnt communicate much over this she didnt even talk about it before the "break" so the communication was bad it was all sudden but if she rings i want to tell her she didnt have the nerve to tell me o my face we wanted to break up and that she doesnt know how it feels in my situation cause it hasnt happened to her and all the hurt n stuff So put my cards on the table as i said before And then Ill be trying to get over it But after school in augest we're going to each other debs she still wants me to go to it and that debs a.k.a prom to some people is after a 2 week holiday with my friends and shes going away to for 2 weeks but its a while away yet... she still needs her space i suppose and what not... I think im gettin on better altough i was awfull today and my mood changes alot.... Its a pain in the ass.... she and i still say we love each other... but every relationships different... =/ and nope never heard of those artists =/
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