benB Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Last night I talked to my ex, we have been broken up for about 3 weeks, we dated for 3 years prior to this. She basically wants to be single. She said she loves me and doesnt want to lose me but she wants a break from the relationship and "time to be strong on her own". I think she basically wants to be single and free to do whatever she wants without me getting hurt about it. We barely talk and she wont hang out with me even though we both go to the same college. Even if she did want me back I don't know how I could forgive her for what she has done to me for the past couple months. I can barely sleep at night, I think of her all day long while she doesn't even try to talk to me and she is enjoying her life without me. I know that I shouldn't care because she doesn't but I can not help it. But I am going NC starting today.
leftfield Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Good man! NC is the way forward, take back some control. I've just done the same thing so I know how it feels to start that long, hard slog towards complete healing, but you will feel better in time. Keep visiting this place and you will get the support you need to get through it mate. Good luck to you.
ChrisMc Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Last night I talked to my ex, we have been broken up for about 3 weeks, we dated for 3 years prior to this. She basically wants to be single. She said she loves me and doesnt want to lose me but she wants a break from the relationship and "time to be strong on her own". I think she basically wants to be single and free to do whatever she wants without me getting hurt about it. We barely talk and she wont hang out with me even though we both go to the same college. Even if she did want me back I don't know how I could forgive her for what she has done to me for the past couple months. I can barely sleep at night, I think of her all day long while she doesn't even try to talk to me and she is enjoying her life without me. I know that I shouldn't care because she doesn't but I can not help it. But I am going NC starting today. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you buddy, in terms of having a girl say she "wants to be single", and the whole not making an effort thing, and let me tell you, NC is the answer. You will feel 100% better. Trust me. That doesn't mean that you won't miss her or think about her or even get sad, because you still will, but there's no need to torture yourself anymore than you already are by staying in any contact with her.
Soysauce111 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Exactly 100% what my ex told me, too. She wants to be single and independent! And its time for her to take a break from relationships and to become a strong independent woman! AHAHAH i think its all BS. I think my ex just want to have more fun now that she is going to transfer to 2hr away college. I guess that made it easier on her part to moved on. I been NC for a month now and i will continue to do so. At first i had so many "what if" so many high hopes of getting back with her. I wanted to reestablish and restart fresh, but now i think im good from it. Life goes on.
Author benB Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 Yeah it sucks, she wont admit it though. She says she doesn't want to be single but I can tell that's not true. She is enjoying her life without me I think she is just scared to tell me that it is over for good.
Nappeal Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Yeah it sucks, she wont admit it though. She says she doesn't want to be single but I can tell that's not true. She is enjoying her life without me I think she is just scared to tell me that it is over for good. She wants to be single but doesn't want to tell you the truth knowing it'll hurt you. She thinks she's doing you a service by suugarcoating her answers, but I think deep down you know the truth. Stay NC and do your best to move on. She doesn't seem too interested in pursuing the relationship w you.
Don Ho Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 What a bunch of BS. That's just womaneze for "I want to go **** other guys, get attention from men and have a good time with out answering to a pussy like you." It sure sounds better the way they serve it up, "I want to be single and independent" doesn't it?
commonlife Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 stay no contact my friend, it is the best thing to do, it isn't easy, believe me but it is better than seeing her, seeing her will just keep your wounds open. We are all with you. out of subject : Don Ho, my friend, how are things going?
Don Ho Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Good, thanks. Went out to the local pub Sat nite to watch UFC with my new woman (who was all dolled up in her $200 size 1 jeans and heels) and of course my Ex was there with her BFF and no guy. She walked right by us twice and didn't even glance or acknowledge us! I don't think she was too happy. HA! I almost wanted to say to her "here's my upgrade". LOL. Ah yes, a good life (and a hot woman) is the best revenge! LOL
flyguy23 Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 The ex literally called me 20 times last night, I didn't answer any of her calls but she texted saying she missed me. Today she kept calling again and I finally answered and told her to stop calling and texting me because she broke up with me and I wont forget how she has treated me during this time. It was probably the hardest thing I have ever done.
Thorgs Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 The ex literally called me 20 times last night, I didn't answer any of her calls but she texted saying she missed me. Today she kept calling again and I finally answered and told her to stop calling and texting me because she broke up with me and I wont forget how she has treated me during this time. It was probably the hardest thing I have ever done. Damn, it takes a strong person to not fall for that trap. Good job.
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