Ash78 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 My wife has left me over 5 weeks ago. SHe has moved into a flat on her own with out 2 boys. The affair started in January and really took off after her mother died in February. After 3 weeks I have managed to get her talking to me and we are communicating quite well considering. How long can I expect to wait for her to make a decision or am I just clinging on in vain hope? I feel the emotion she has for me is there and being surpressed. Which is why I am holding out. I think the other man is a reaction to the greif of her mother and all the other stress we have had.
Owl Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 This probably belongs in the Infidelity section, not the OW/OM section would be my guess. I recommend going to marriagebuilders.com, read their free material....BUT AVOID THE FORUMS!!!! What you need to do is walk through their questionnaire, identify her emotional needs, and find ways to meet them where you can. At the same time, take steps to make yourself a happier, healthier you. It's called "Plan A". Don't be a doormat. Read that again. But do look for opportunities to change and improve...and for ways to SHOW (not tell her...do not talk about this) that you have changed and improved.
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