Ootilac Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Hi there, I broke up with my ex this Feb, roughly around 7 months ago, when he was overseas. He initiated the breakup because he felt he was unable to deal with having a relationship at that point. Then when he came back in June, he told me that he still like me, but wasn't sure if he wanted to go into a relationship with me. After meeting up a few times, he said to have a clean break so that both of us can move on from the current hurt feelings we have. So we have been in NC for about a month plus. Occasionally, I'll visit his facebook to see how he is doing. I do still care about him, even though I'm really hurt by the way things ended. The last time I visited his facebook, I saw that he blocked me from his wall. He and I are still friends on facebook, I can see his info, photos etc., but not his wall. Here's my question, why did he block me from his wall? I couldn't figure out the logic because: - why not unfriend/block me totally? - or why not also block me from seeing his pictures too if he really wants to maintain this nice image that he's nice enough to be still friends with his ex, but at the same time want to maintain privacy? Anyways, we were both each other's first love. It was a 2.5 year relationship... Thanks for reading.
Lost Fish Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Hiya Ootilac, Well, let's look at this logically. You two went for months in the agreed-upon break with NC. He openly shared his facebook wall with you until randomly hiding it away. So...why would he do that? The obvious answer is that he has something to hide there. Perhaps some friendly flirting from a new friend? Maybe a dig at you from a friend of his about his ex? Either way, it has created doubt in your mind, which is a dangerous thing. So... I'll get to my main point. You'll quickly find on here (and elsewhere) that usually when couples go on "breaks" 90% of the time they are just less-stigmatic ways of saying "break-ups". My guess is that your ex was a coward who didn't want to just end things so that in case his new-found single life didn't pay-off he'd still have you there waiting in the wings to pick him up when he was feeling low again. It doesn't sound very fair does it? I think it's time you were honest with yourself and him about what exactly is going on. Ask him for an honest definition of what this "break" is. If he stammers and falters under pressure from you - then I would save what dignity you have left and consider it a "break-up." Then block/delete his facebook and go complete NC. Good luck to you. Also, facebook is the devil when it comes to dating.
Cee Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I think he blocked you from his wall for privacy sake. Basically, he feels uncomfortable about you knowing his day to day interactions. Because that's a form of contact. It's a sensible thing for him to do since you about agreed NC. But it's up to you if you want to block your wall or unfriend him. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
VeveCakes Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 He could also just have his wall disabled. I did that once and all my friends thought they were blocked from it.
Username37 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 The last time I visited his facebook, I saw that he blocked me from his wall. He and I are still friends on facebook, I can see his info, photos etc., but not his wall. Here's my question, why did he block me from his wall? I couldn't figure out the logic because: - why not unfriend/block me totally? - or why not also block me from seeing his pictures too if he really wants to maintain this nice image that he's nice enough to be still friends with his ex, but at the same time want to maintain privacy? Anyways, we were both each other's first love. It was a 2.5 year relationship... Thanks for reading. My ex did the same thing. Your ex doesn't want to delete you because he knows that would hurt you. But at the same time, he doesn't want you in his "life" It's stupid if you have mutual friends. You'll find out anything he's posting sooner of later (not saying you should ask your mutual friends). Don't worry about it. My ex was my first love and we've been together for 1.5 years. I was hurt that she did that to me at first but down the line, you'll be thankful she did. You don't want to see the crap your ex is doing, it will set you back.
Minnie09 Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 He could also just have his wall disabled. I did that once and all my friends thought they were blocked from it. Sorry for threadjacking, but why do people disable their walls? I'm not too FB savvy, that's why I'm asking. Sorry again!
ChrisMc Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Sorry for threadjacking, but why do people disable their walls? I'm not too FB savvy, that's why I'm asking. Sorry again! Just to avoid any unnecessary drama that, sadly, Facebook can bring, whether it be a co-worker seeing something, etc.
Nappeal Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Firstly...please save your sanity now and no longer look @ his profile! Why does anyone hide anything? Because its wrong; its something they shouldn't be doing; or its something they don't want someone else to see. I'd assume he has blocked you because there is something there that he doesn't want you to see. No reason to stress yourself and quite possibly add more hurt. Unfriend and block him so you are not tempted. IF he asked, don't bother w a response...HE did say to you he no longer wanted contact.
V4Vanna Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 why did he block me from his wall? He blocked you because he didn't want to be the 'bad guy' and un-friend you but at the same time he doesn't want you to know the ins-and-outs of his daily life. That itself means that he's over you and you do need to move on. The 'break' is past and most definitely into a 'break-up.' Please stop looking at his profile at all and even, if you can, and are strong enough, 'un-friend' him. It will be easier for you if the temptation is no longer there and will help you move on.
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