TomerT Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Dear all, Desperately asking for your advise. 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me, and almost all this time we didn't talked (she tried to contact me few times during this period, I don't know the reason though..). So today I revealed that she deleted me from her contacts on Yahoo Msgr, Skype and Facebook. Is it over ? May be she did it out of frustration ? For the whole 3 weeks I didn't stop thinking about her for a second. But I never begged or asked her back, on the contrary I said her that I respect and agree with her decision and it probably for the best for both of us. I will be happy for her if she will be happy even with someone else. Now, when I revealed that she deleted me from her contacts, I feel "desperate". I don't know what to do. Why she did this ? To provoke me ? But why ? - she broke up with me and asked for time and space, I gave it to her... I want to send her message that I am miss her. She can do with this whatever she wants. I think it can not be worth than it is already. Please suggest me what to do. I still love her and believe that she still loves me (at least that what she said 10 times when she broke up with me)
jms76 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Don't contact her. Whatever the reason she deleted you from her contacts is irrelevant. If she wanted you back she would contact you. Not the other way around. I know this is hard. Everyone on here knows it is hard. But for your own dignity and sanity, please do not contact her. Giver her what she asked for. Even though you want to do the opposite, someday you will see why letting her go was necessary.
Author TomerT Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 Don't contact her. Whatever the reason she deleted you from her contacts is irrelevant. If she wanted you back she would contact you. Not the other way around. I know this is hard. Everyone on here knows it is hard. But for your own dignity and sanity, please do not contact her. Giver her what she asked for. Even though you want to do the opposite, someday you will see why letting her go was necessary. Thanks. At the beginning I also though like this. But after some time I started to doubt. What is "dignity" ? It's just a word, something in our head - it is not real, you can not touch it. On the other hand, I can loose a real person. So do you think some concept outweigh the real person ? I am not sure already.
whatadeer26 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Do nothing. It is still early in your break-up. Most of all calm down, relax, go to the gym and take some of your stress off. Listen you need to not contact her. She will get intouch with you if she wants to work on your relationship. I pursued my ex to try an work on us and trust me it wont work. I made a fool out of myself. Better yourself in any aspect you see fit.
collegeguy_24 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I am actually in a similer situation, same time period to as the OP. So I wonder, heres a question for both me and I'm sure the OP could also be in a similer situation What if your ex wants you back, but she is to afraid to contact you out of fear she will be rejected? My ex has that sort of personality, and if she wanted me back but was to afraid, and the people on LS preach no contact, that kind of puts us in a pickle here. Same could also be said for OPs girl, she may want him back but is to afraid t contact him.
whatadeer26 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Do you think she would tell her friend(s) and it would flow through the grapevine?
Author TomerT Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 I think she knows me pretty good. I am not a "scary" guy...I will just give her a big hug. If she just would do one small step - I will run into her direction. Unfortunatelly, seems that she not willing to do even one small step. If it so - probably she doesn't really want me "bad" enough. I will put my "fears" to be rejected, "dignity" (what is this btw ?) a side if this is a price to pay us to be together. When she broke up with me (on Skype by the way), she was in her country and I wanted immediately fly to her...She should be back in 3 weeks... Every day that passes, she became a "stranger" to me. Sometimes I think she hates me (frankly, I didn't give her any reason and treated her like a princess). Never mind, thank you all - I would go crazy without you
Author TomerT Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 Do you think she would tell her friend(s) and it would flow through the grapevine? Tell what ? We do not have mutual friends, since we are both relatively new in the country.
whatadeer26 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 What I meant by that was she will find a way for you to know. If she wants you back it will become obvious. If it is not she is throwing you bread crumbs.
Author TomerT Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 I know for sure - if she wants something she will find a way to get it. Once she came to me with a taxi in the middle on the night, while I wasn't home and told her that I am away. She still came and waited me near the door on the streeet in the middle of the night. So she knows to act when she really has an incentive, right ?
whatadeer26 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Yes, she know where and how to find you. My response was more directed to college then you.
collegeguy_24 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Yes, she know where and how to find you. My response was more directed to college then you. My ex is kinds different I guess. When she wants something she can go for it, but if its a personal situation, she doesn't like to act out of fear as to how she will be perceived and out of fear of rejection. It was a common theme in our relationship and she did learn to open up to me. But our breakup was pretty emotional and I know that if she wanted to get back with me, she would most likely be to afraid to say anything. But Ops girl seems different in the fact she is direct and will go for what she wants regardless of fear. I just misread his first post that is all, I will take my thoughts to my own thread and leave this one for OP's situation.
Sambo Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I am actually in a similer situation, same time period to as the OP. So I wonder, heres a question for both me and I'm sure the OP could also be in a similer situation What if your ex wants you back, but she is to afraid to contact you out of fear she will be rejected? My ex has that sort of personality, and if she wanted me back but was to afraid, and the people on LS preach no contact, that kind of puts us in a pickle here. Same could also be said for OPs girl, she may want him back but is to afraid t contact him. LOL Women want things they cant have 10x more then things they can. If she wants you she will let you know for certain.
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