Lemontang Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Hey gang, Bit of an odd one here I'm guessing since I haven't managed to find anything on the web on this, and it's probably a silly topic anyway. But was wondering has anyone ever 'thanked' the dumper for breaking up with them. I know that might sound a bit odd at 1st but to put it into perspective in my case. I was dating a girl for a few months and it really wasn't progressing too much as in the spark just wasn't sparking anymore. Now as much as I'm prepared to work at things a bit and was fairly open to her type of lifestyle she chose to end the relationship since we help considerably different interests (i.e she was more a 4x4 drink rum bogan kind of girl, I'm more of a cafe & coffee catch the theater or a movie yuppie kind of guy). So in short I'm kind of relieved that she ended it even though I would have been more than happy to keep working on it. So wondered would it be odd to thank them for the time they chose to spend with you and go about your merry way. Side note: in no way was the breakup bad, we just simply ended it. Cheers, LT
realization Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 This sounds like it was casual dating... how long have you been together? For me, it was a long serious relationship in my mind. I was hurt at first, but am getting to the thankful phase where i'm just relieved and can live my life and focus on myself. Of course,there are times where I have a hard time not thinking about it all...
Author Lemontang Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 I guess reading that doesn't give to much away does it? We'd been dating for about 1 1/2 months before we decided to become an item, which lasted a further 3 months. Unlike a relationship I had prior to that that was for 3 years I'm not cut up at all about this one. Yes I really liked this girl (I don't throw the word love around casually), but I guess even I knew long term we were just to different to make it much further, but I did enjoy the time I spent with her, even if it was just to open my eyes on a lifestyle I'm somewhat not accustomed too.
Sweet_Tea Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Hey gang, Bit of an odd one here I'm guessing since I haven't managed to find anything on the web on this, and it's probably a silly topic anyway. But was wondering has anyone ever 'thanked' the dumper for breaking up with them. I know that might sound a bit odd at 1st but to put it into perspective in my case. I was dating a girl for a few months and it really wasn't progressing too much as in the spark just wasn't sparking anymore. Now as much as I'm prepared to work at things a bit and was fairly open to her type of lifestyle she chose to end the relationship since we help considerably different interests (i.e she was more a 4x4 drink rum bogan kind of girl, I'm more of a cafe & coffee catch the theater or a movie yuppie kind of guy). So in short I'm kind of relieved that she ended it even though I would have been more than happy to keep working on it. So wondered would it be odd to thank them for the time they chose to spend with you and go about your merry way. Side note: in no way was the breakup bad, we just simply ended it. Cheers, LT Actually I did. I spent a year and a half with my first love and even though nothing bad had ever happened, breaking up seemed like the right thing to do. We're on different paths and essentially have different life values even though we love each other. So I thanked him for the amazing time we had and all the things I learnt from being in this relationship. I'm also grateful for gaining new insight into my own life. I was quick to judge him for not improving his situation but I wasn't doing anything for myself either. So no I don't think it's odd to thank them. I think it's a very mature thing to do. Shows personal growth and shows that you appreciate what you had together.
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