12yearsin Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I have been with some one for the better part of twelve years. What seemed like to me completely out of no where he confessed to cheating on me (after I pointed out why I thought he was). He has always been faithful, I am sure of it. A week later he ended things with me completely. I made all of the classic mistakes in the beginning like crying and admitting to depression. I know I was way to needy. He is very ready to tell me information about him and her. It did not take long for me to discover he was still sleeping with her. At first he said the were not serous they got along, she was like a friend. A month later I discovered he went away with her for a few days! Hurt doesn't even explain how awful I feel. He says they are a couple for lack of a better word. Here is the thing, he still insist no one can ever compare to what we had, that he loves me (not in love though), when he gets married he wants to marry me, and no one can ever compare. His family still invites me places and he seems upset that I decline the invites. Please someone help! What do I do now? Is their hope for reconciliation? Is this girl a rebound? Is there hope? Is he just playing with my emotions? I love him so much, we were engaged!
HeatherAngel Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Honey, trust me. This man will keep you waiting if he can. And STILL he may not come back. Why? Because he will lose respect for you while you hang on. You CAN do better, you just don't see it right now. He is being very cruel to you, and deliberately making you the focus of 'bad behaviour' (to take the focus off of him and his atrocious behaviour) when you decline invites from his family (if they know what he's up to, why are they still inviting you?). WHY would he be cruel, this man who 'loves you'? Because he has emotionally detached from you and is invested elsewhere. Ignore him now, and heal yourself. Do you need my qualifications for giving this advice? I spent almost two years waiting on my husband who 'loved me'... but left me, and had several women, including the long term gf. DO NOT become the OW in your own relationship. PLEASE. Be a woman you can like when you look at YOURSELF in the mirror. Be strong now. You owe it to yourself.
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