BuschBaby Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Exactly 2 weeks ago I ended it with my boyfriend of 3.5 years. Long story short, he was ignoring me and had all of a sudden pulled back. I suspected he had started a Facebook relationship with a woman he went to high school with 20+ years ago. I asked him straight out if he was pursuing another relationship. He said "not at this time". That was a red flag to me. Anyway, he had gone on vacation and I hadn't spoken to him in 3 weeks, eventhough he was only on vacation one of those weeks. He didn't answer emails and didn't call. Finally, a few Fridays ago, I asked him why he couldn't set aside 10 minutes to talk to me. He never answered that email. It was like he had just flipped the kill switch on our relationship. I felt nothing anymore. He had been doing this to me during our last year together. I immediately unfriended him on Facebook because I knew it was going to be the first step for me to get over him. On the following Monday, I sent him an email asking him to call me because I had something to say to him. He called, I told him I couldn't see him anymore. He sounded surprised, but not upset. He said he knew it was his fault that he was neglecting me and said he still saw a future together for us. I didn't believe it, and I didn't care. Two days later, I checked his friend list and I saw that the woman that I strongly suspected he was seeing behind my back was now off of his friend list. She had been on his friend list before me because he had started his facebook page in secret without telling me. I found out by accident. He also stated he was single on the FB page when he first started it. This was all last year. What does all of this FB stuff mean? He just called me an hour ago. I didn't answer. He left a voicemail. He said that he hadn't heard from me in a while and was thinking of me and hoping that all was well. He said he was calling to see if he should order me another refill for my daytime planner for 2011. I sent him an email that said " I won't be needing a planner for the upcoming year, but thank you for asking." That was it. You also have to understand, he was used to me trying to email and communicate every day. Now I've dropped off the face of the earth and he is not getting all the attention that I had lavished on him the last 3.5 years. What do you guys make of the FB unfriending of that woman, and why he would call me when he had never had any interest in calling me at the end of our relationship? I'm thinking 'fall back girl'. He did sound meek like he had his tail between his legs.
Thorgs Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Do you honestly want to be with someone who neglects you like that? As for the FB thing, maybe he had the girl block you so you wouldn't be able to see her anyways. Who knows. I say go NC and stick to it. You'll feel better for doing so
Author BuschBaby Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 NC has made me feel so much better. I want him to just go away. I'm still angry and hurt by his deceit. If she blocked me, does that mean I wouldn't be able to see her at all on FB, or I just wouldn't be able to see her on his friend list? I'm able to type her name into FB and pull her up with no problem. Today I deactivated my FB account so that I wouldn't be tempted to look at his friend list. I'm thinking that he may have noticed and that's why he called. Who knows. I hate liars and cheats.
Thorgs Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Oh if you can pull her up you're not blocked. Well, FB is the devil when it comes to relationships and post-relationships. I'm sorry you're going through this.
YellowShark Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I've said this a hundred times and I'll say it again. The Earth functioned for centuries before Facebook was invented 6 years ago. So please, for your own sanity, don't measure your self-worth using Facebook as the yardstick. Facebook is like fake boobs, they may look great but they're still 100% fake.
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