itwasforher Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 After almost 3 years my girlfriend and I decided (mutually) after months of issues about the difference of cultures and religions imposed by her family, that it was finally time to be apart. She's a great woman who decided to be loyal to her family, which I do respect and actually admire, but it had to be at the expense of me . I'm really at a lost right now, and have been trying my best to find ways to cope. I had this whole fairy tale in my head that the fact our chemistry was so strong and that we truly loved each other that it would overthrow an absurd tradition of having her family choose her life partner. I don't really agree with the idea of thinking of her in a negative light, because honestly I think the world of and truly truly want her to be happy. But at the same time, it really upsets and depresses me knowing how happy I made her and how hard I tried to give her everything, only to be left in the dust. The idea of her being with somebody else is driving me nuts. The dichotomy is confusing. I think highly of her, but being upset at the situation is leaving me confused. I hope what I'm trying to say makes sense, cause I'm still trying to make sense of it all myself. A little help from you guys would be greatly appreciated.
YellowShark Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 After almost 3 years my girlfriend and I decided (mutually) after months of issues about the difference of cultures and religions imposed by her family, that it was finally time to be apart. IMHO any religion that tears people apart is racist and not something to be respected. "Science flies us to the moon... religion flies us into buildings."
PegNosePete Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 IMHO any religion that tears people apart is racist and not something to be respected. Yep, agreed.
bonpaw2008 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 It is good that you still think highly of her, but you will have to get mad at the situation and grieve for it before you can heal. If you know it's for the best for both of you then start to move on. Get your head clear of what happened, why it happened. It is hard for me "a westerner" to understand the pressures of race and religion and how some have to choose between that and the person they want to be with. Just stay strong and work on yourself for now, and make a better choice the next time, someone that will pick you over anything.
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