Nappeal Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 XB called me out of the blue 830ish on Saturday night. Baby this, babe that, I miss you, and the conversation ended w him saying 'babe, I love you'. I wouldn't reply, so I got a text afterwards again saying 'I love you babe'. Did I mention he was on his way to drunkness and home alone? We spoke about the baby and BSd a little. He was drunk, so I entertained the call but didn't get sucked into it. He did ask several times for me to come see him on Tues when he had time off from work; mmy reply was 'ask when you're sober'...'babe, seriously, come over Tuesday' was his reply. Then it turned to, 'well come bring my son over on Tuesday' insinuating hes wants me over since I'm preg. I haven't heard a word from him initiated by him for 2 or 3 weeks, so this was totally out of the blue. We did have some minimal friendly banter thru txt for about an hour or 2 yesterday, but that's it. I was dying to ask whether or not he was being sincere all day yesterday...kinda today...but now I'm questioning IF I should mention coming over Tues? I KNOW for a fact there's nothing good in it for me...he's in no way saying he wants to make things work, so for me to see him would just hurt me, duh. But I do want to ask his sincerity...did he really want to see me... I'm not stupid about this drunk call, but it was totally out of the blue, and I don't know what to do now, if anything. My reminder text will go out tomorrow about the Dr appt, so I'm looking to wait and see if he brings up coming over himself. Sorry so long...I'm really trying hard to not pester friends w this stuff as much as possible, so I turn to LSers
Cee Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 You are pregnant with his child, a child that he will have to financially support for 18 years. This is not the time to play into his games. You can't afford this because you are going to be a single mom. Just call him on the telephone and have an adult discussion about his phone call. Confront him about it and tell him this is not the time to mess with your feelings. Insist that he not call you while intoxicated any more or if he can't help himself, get help for an alcohol problem. It's time to set boundaries for appropriate behavior. Insist on respect and consideration at all times. Because once this baby is born, you are going to need him to do his part. ...As for whatever feelings he has for you, that doesn't matter. Actions speak louder than words & all he was doing was sitting on a sofa and drinking alone. I really feel for you. This is a tough situation.
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