Kael Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Hey all, I posted my story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t243439/ a few days ago. To summarize: My g/f and I were in a LDR. Been together for 7.5 yrs. She's in graduate school. I am working fulltime. She is no longer 100% sure about the relationship and isn't putting in 100%. We took a 2.5 month break (she made out with another guy a few times during that break). She came back to me for 2 weeks. We were together and had a good time. All of a sudden she went right back into her funk, and she consequently dumped me on Friday. So, I have gone strict NC since then. She has sent me 2 texts since she broke it off: Day 1 (Friday) - ":( I am really sorry an d this makes me sad. I am just tired of this in between and me not being sure. i don't deserve you right now. all I can hope is that everything will work out for the best. I love you." Then: Day 2 (Saturday) - "I know that this is not allowed but i miss you a lot today. i still think this is the best thing for now but im having a pretty hard time with it. Im not expecting a response, btw." So, I decided last night (Sunday) to remove her as a friend from Facebook. I didn't want to see her posts. I didn't want to see any relationship status changes. I didn't want to see any new guys posting on her wall, etc. I also wanted her to know that I am serious about NC and making her open her eyes that she is losing me. She just found out today (Monday) that I removed her. And she sent me a facebook message and a text saying "Why did you defriend me on facebook?". I have ignored it. She sent another text a few minutes later saying: "Please don't ignore me" I really would like to be with this girl, but I want her to be 100% committed to me and 100% ready to put in the work required to make a LDR work. I am crazy for her, but I know I can do better than the way she has treated me recently. How should I respond to the recent texts and her concern about me removing her from facebook? Please help! Thanks LSers,
Milkchoc Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Seems to me that your gf has a serious committment issue. I don't understand how she can say she loves you after being so quick to go off with another man. It sounds like you adore this girl and if you do decide to take her back, let her wait a bit first. If you take her back too soon or too easily, she'll continue to walk all over you. Seems to me like she's quite happily getting along with her life knowing that if things dont work out with who-ever, then you'll always be there waiting to take her back. Like she's hedging her bets. Ask her for 5 good reasons why you should keep in contact...
a.lyons1 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I went through pretty much the same thing with my ex. Except I intially broke up with her, then she broke up with me. My rship was v painful and we both more or less decided to end it 4 days ago. Since then I have changed my mobile number, email address, removed myself permanently off fb, and I have cancelled her phone contract (I was paying for it) These 4 days I have been out with firends, joined a gym, making plans to go on holiday etc. But the pain is still there. Dont let women use you as there emotional tampon, lots of these texts sent arent really sincere. If she wants you all she has to beg, plead etc.
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