HurtinginTexas Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 LS I know I have been posting lately and I dont get to many answers anymore. I have taken all your advice and had been in NC for over 3 months. I have been getting little emails from him reagrding Facebook posts he must be viewing (as hes not a friend on FB). And latle hes sent emails professing why he ran out on me as his time because of excess baggage from the marriage and bunch of other BS. Still he fails to mention it was because he ran to try and get back with the exW. I find out hes seeing other women now, in this one year of NC that the exW had wanted from him, until they start talking again. I get an email from him complementing me on somthing and I was so upset I find out about these other women. I sent an email saying it was really nice how he moned on from me so quickly, guess i really menat alot to him. He emails and says I am assuming sh*t, that there is no one. Im the one thats Loved and missed. And to tell him how I know about these things because hes apparently msiing something more than me... Whatever..I ignore it and post something on my FB anbout forgiveness and resentment.. He emails with a long email of how Im loved and missed..Hes thought about me every day since the day he walked out..He had to leave and wanted all of his pain to go away..Theres no one thats ever going to replace me..He snot looking to reaplce me..If I hate him hell have to live with it the rest of his life..But He will always love and miss me.. WTF?? Seriously..I was healing..I was finally relaxed..I responeded out of anger and shock and fear..i had accepted in my head he was gpoing back to exW..But now hes seeing two or more other women..2 I am sure of and he is also on a dating site..But he emails me and make s me believ Im missed and loved.. Why is he doing this?? I feel like crap now..Why didnt he leave me alone..Has he no idea of what hes done?? Or the fact that the trust is utterly destroyed..What is he trying to do and why is he lying about these women he is seeing? Id have more respect if he told the truth..He has the right to date whomever he choosse as he is single but hes still lying about things..
whichwayisup Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Here's your solution. BLOCK him on facebook. Stop replying to his messages. Period. The more you react to what he says, the more he will play this little cat and mouse game with you. Get back into NC mode and let yourself heal, close him out of your heart.
Owl Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Agreed with WWIU. Exchanging emails is not remaining NC. It's resuming communication. And it's preventing you from your healing. Block him, remove any avenue of approach that he could/would use...and resume living your happy life without him.
NancyBotwin Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I wanted to jump in and comment on something about FB. Blocking someone will not keep them totally blocked. Blocking a user will prevent any type of direct interaction between you and that user. However, for technical reasons, there are certain instances when an individual you have blocked from your account may be able to view your comments on the site and vice versa, including comments on a mutual friend's photo. Please be assured that your listing will appear in black text, with no profile picture visible or contact links available. (Quoted from Facebook)
Hazyhead Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I'm so sorry Hurting, he sounds positively toxic. As Wwiu said, he wants you to react; he's teasing you,trying to prompt you into begging him back. I agree with the others - block him every way you can. Think of all the progress you want to make and how any information from him will only set you back. He is utterly selfish and you deserve better.
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