ajk_23 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 My girlfriend recently moved away to college. I am having a very hard time with it, i cant eat, sleep, or focus on my own school work. I worry all the time about what she is doing, its not cuz i dont trust her its just the way i am i guess. I asked her to tell me what she is doing through out the day and she has a problem with that because she dosnt want to feel like she has to "report" to me. I feel like she just dosnt want any strings attached. I love this girl like you wouldnt believe. She is my life. But to get to the point, should i let her go so she can have the good time at college that she deserves, with out any strings attached. I dont want to loose her, but should i do it so she can be happier? Please anyone help me, im loosing my mind
leftfield Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 For a start you really need to stop keeping tabs on her, because that will drive her away. No one likes to feel like they are being monitored all the time. If you are a natural worrier then perhaps you should start by focussing on that, ask yourself why you worry so much. Do you lack confidence, or have low self esteem? Think of some things that you could do to raise your confidence, set yourself some goals of doing things you wouldn't normally do, challenge yourself. The confident guy that is probably lurking somewhere deep within you will be much more attractive than this needy persona you are putting across. Nothing is more likely to push her away than that. Start a new hobby or something, or do some things that you will make you feel better about yourself. When you speak to your girlfriend tell about what you've been up to rather than just questioning her every move. She will find you a much more intriguing and interesting person if you have a life of your own for her to want to come back to. Long-distance relationships can be hard to maintain, and I presume that you're fairly young, which often makes it harder. But your current behaviour is seriously undermining your relationship and it has got to stop. By all means tell her you love her and are looking forward to seeing her again, and ask her how things are going, but don't interrogate the poor girl, she will run a mile. Be cool, OK, cooooool.
Author ajk_23 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 i really appreciate your help. Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions. i hope they help lol
9Lives Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 dude, you doing too much. you are definately going to get fired! she in college..yes she is going to meet ALOT of people and that's the bottom line. period. you gonna have to get over it. let her go and do your own thing now..you making it bad. this is the flow of life and you here and she there. nothing u can do really. just chill
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