ajk_23 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 My biggest problem with the whole LDR this is not knowing what my girlfriend is doing through out the day. I hate to admit that becasue i know it sounds like im trying to control her. Im not. I let her do what she wants but i just want to know what it is she is doing and who she is hanging out with. She has a problem with telling me that, and that is where the problem lies. She dosnt want to feel that she has to report to me on her actions. I understand that becasue it is college and your suppost to have no strings attached fun, but having a boyfriend back at home comes with strings attached. And i fear that she will get tired of that and break up with me. And on the other hand if i dont ask her what shes doing and who she is with i feel like crap. I just worry so much and i dont like being on the outside and not knowing what she is doing. And i feel like it isnt fair to me. The other problem is that her ex goes to the same school. They hang out all the time and she knows it bothers me very much, but she said "hes just another friend and someone to hang out with" What should i do about this whole situation?
CycleOfLove Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 If shes in college away from you,and you guys met from back home and she really loves you and care for you and really want this relationship to last then I don't think its to much to ask for to tell you who shes with and where shes at. I mean she should feel like she suppose to tell you about her day as much as possible and the people shes around everyday, rather then feel like she doesn't have to tell you these kind of things. I mean she IS your girlfriend,why cant she tell you who she hangs out with everyday and be honest about it? why she feels like she doesn't "have to, or owe you" I mean whats there to hide?
wishing4thefuture Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 My biggest problem with the whole LDR this is not knowing what my girlfriend is doing through out the day. I hate to admit that becasue i know it sounds like im trying to control her. Im not. I let her do what she wants but i just want to know what it is she is doing and who she is hanging out with. She has a problem with telling me that, and that is where the problem lies. She dosnt want to feel that she has to report to me on her actions. I understand that becasue it is college and your suppost to have no strings attached fun, but having a boyfriend back at home comes with strings attached. And i fear that she will get tired of that and break up with me. And on the other hand if i dont ask her what shes doing and who she is with i feel like crap. I just worry so much and i dont like being on the outside and not knowing what she is doing. And i feel like it isnt fair to me. The other problem is that her ex goes to the same school. They hang out all the time and she knows it bothers me very much, but she said "hes just another friend and someone to hang out with" What should i do about this whole situation? There's a difference between who she's with and how her day went. I think that you should call it quits for now and then see what happens in the future. It would be liberating.
LisaLee Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 . Im not. I let her do what she wants but i just want to know what it is she is doing and who she is hanging out with. She has a problem with telling me that, and that is where the problem lies. She dosnt want to feel that she has to report to me on her actions. That is a problem. When you are in an LDR is when you should kick the communication up. It sounds like she is a girl fresh out of her parent's home who is just finding her independence. She doesn't have to report to you... but it is nice to tell each other what you're doing.
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