rattled Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I'm usually a pretty heavy sleeper, especially on days when I know that I'm able to sleep in. But lately I've been waken up by my thoughts and dreams of my ex. I'll lay in bed awake with the memories of our relationship running through my mind and it eats away at me. I start to get depressed and the last time it got so intense I broke NC. Any one else experience this? How do I get this to stop??
Username37 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I'm usually a pretty heavy sleeper, especially on days when I know that I'm able to sleep in. But lately I've been waken up by my thoughts and dreams of my ex. I'll lay in bed awake with the memories of our relationship running through my mind and it eats away at me. I start to get depressed and the last time it got so intense I broke NC. Any one else experience this? How do I get this to stop?? I'm encountering a similar problem. I hate it so much. Hope we can find a stop to it. I'm trying to figure out something too.
Author rattled Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 I'm doing everything to help me cope during the days and nights. Preoccupying myself with things to do, keeping my mind off my ex. But there's absolutely nothing I could do in the mornings. I absolutely hate this bs.
bonpaw2008 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Yah I hate that, especially when I dream something about him or wake up thinking about him. I have not been a good sleeper for the past few years but this makes it even worse. I have heard other people say to try not to fall asleep thinking about them (easier said than done) and try to distract your mind with other things prior to sleep. Mostly I think it is just going to take time to expell them from our psyches, they are an engrained presence there....
northstar1 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I'm usually a pretty heavy sleeper, especially on days when I know that I'm able to sleep in. But lately I've been waken up by my thoughts and dreams of my ex. I'll lay in bed awake with the memories of our relationship running through my mind and it eats away at me. I start to get depressed and the last time it got so intense I broke NC. Any one else experience this? How do I get this to stop?? Yes, this is really common. I'd have dreams about my ex-ex right before dawn, then wake up at like 5am and feel depressed. I can tell you it does slow down and stop over time. Trust me on this. You'll do it less and less and then eventually you'll realize you haven't through of them in a week, two weeks etc. In the morning, best thing is as soon as you wake up, get up and do something. Make a coffee, go out side for a walk/run, read a book. Don't let it become a habit of where you lie in bed for two hours with a movie of your ex playing in your head.
9Lives Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Yes, this is really common. I'd have dreams about my ex-ex right before dawn, then wake up at like 5am and feel depressed. I can tell you it does slow down and stop over time. Trust me on this. You'll do it less and less and then eventually you'll realize you haven't through of them in a week, two weeks etc. In the morning, best thing is as soon as you wake up, get up and do something. Make a coffee, go out side for a walk/run, read a book. Don't let it become a habit of where you lie in bed for two hours with a movie of your ex playing in your head. yes this is common and I'm struggling with it too. insomia then waking up hurting like a mutha the ex killing my brain. I have a book by my bed(i just put it there yesterday)...im gonna set my alarm to wake up and ready the book as soon as I get up. I hope that works. if I can get up and get going without that drama..i can manage the rest of the days. the mornings are rough. but its true...they will stop soon. its not forever
miserab Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Same here, after 2 months my mood is mostly better at nights before I'm going to sleep. I managed to convinced myself that everything happened for the better. I'm going to move forward, etc. But then after few hours of sleep, my brain turns against me. I'm getting sentimental, sweet memories are back haunting me, thus I feel painful and unable to sleep. I hope to get some input on how to overcome this. It's very tiring.
bboy Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t241605/ What's important is that you actually live up to your efforts of getting sleep. Otherwise you'll just complain that "nothing works". I hope this can help with sleeping issues.
Author rattled Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 Thanks for the link bboy. It's not so much that I don't get my sleep. It's the moment I wake up that the thoughts starts racing. Not until the moment I step foot outside my door and see someone or talk to someone that the thoughts slowly die down. But I really hate the fact that I wake up to memories of my ex.
bboy Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I know. I do wake up like this every night since two months. But it will calm down.
skydiveaddict Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I'm usually a pretty heavy sleeper, especially on days when I know that I'm able to sleep in. But lately I've been waken up by my thoughts and dreams of my ex. I'll lay in bed awake with the memories of our relationship running through my mind and it eats away at me. I start to get depressed and the last time it got so intense I broke NC. Any one else experience this? How do I get this to stop?? Yes I experience it every damn nite. But I never contacted her. She's even sent texts in the middle of the nite :Hey, thinking of you, how are you"? DONT contact her. She's just looking for a way to displace guilt and make herself feel better. Don't give in to that . It will only set you back to the begininng. Then you will have to start all over again.
Ashton. Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Yes I experience it every damn nite. But I never contacted her. She's even sent texts in the middle of the nite :Hey, thinking of you, how are you"? DONT contact her. She's just looking for a way to displace guilt and make herself feel better. Don't give in to that . It will only set you back to the begininng. Then you will have to start all over again. Newbie here but these threads are prophetic and its kind of nice to know other people out there have the same experiences. I honestly have always thought it was just me who is plagued by inexplicable thoughts of my ex in the mornings. The train to work has become synonymous with heartache. Breaking up and not contacting her has been one of the hardest things of my life. Now I understand why I got a voicemail from her at 5.30am saying how she'd woken up and thought she'd seen an SMS from me on her phone. I replied a few weeks later, shouldn't have, and got ignored. I now know shes seeing someone else, someone about 15yrs older, fat and bald but loaded. I feel so empty now. Every morning when I wake up I am reminded of this involuntarily by my mind
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