EthanH Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 ok so today, something weird happened, and I guess by writing it on here, I somehow think it will make more sense. so today i was getting a train to meet friends. I had to get a train back one stop up the line as the train didn't stop at my local station. I got the train back, but it was 5 minutes late, so i missed the connecting train, i was literally hammering on the door open button, but the train pulled away. Thus I had to wait for an hour at the station. Waited in the waiting room and walked out onto the platform, which was deserted, apart from my ex. I can't get over what a massive coincidence this was. I was kinda caught in the headlights, had no idea what to do, we ended up sitting next to each other. We talked about random things for a while, and then she fell asleep. When she woke up, we spoke about us. I was feeling better with NC... granted i was still thinking of how to get her back, but seeing her, having to sit over from her when she was sleeping, it drove me nuts. Help.
realization Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I know exactly how you feel. The hardest for me is when I see her picture pop up on my caller id and whether to pick up or not.
TaraMaiden Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Don't contact her again. Ok, so this was an extraordinary series of chances that ended up dumping you into this bizarre circumstance. But don't read anything into it at all. Remember the unfolding of events was just a weird thing for you. Her day was proceeding normally, and as far as she's concerned, she just ran into you. Unless she calls you with "oh my god, it must have been fate, this is a definite sign we really should be together!" Then forget about it. besides, she was obviously so riveted by seeing you that she fell asleep. Neat, yeah, thanks for that....
tornandmarried Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 just cuz you go NC doesnt mean u need to swear her out of your life forever.....its a good sign u can still be friends one day...nothing worse than breaking up with a girl and she runs and hides with her friends when she sees u walking down the street...be glad
Author EthanH Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 Don't contact her again. Ok, so this was an extraordinary series of chances that ended up dumping you into this bizarre circumstance. But don't read anything into it at all. Remember the unfolding of events was just a weird thing for you. Her day was proceeding normally, and as far as she's concerned, she just ran into you. Unless she calls you with "oh my god, it must have been fate, this is a definite sign we really should be together!" Then forget about it. besides, she was obviously so riveted by seeing you that she fell asleep. Neat, yeah, thanks for that.... yeah have had the stock 'it must be fate' comments from the friends i have mentioned this to, and she did seem pretty awestruck, mentioned it on the train. In the past, because I have done so much to try to change her mind (that was months back) I get the impression she probably thought it was all a set-up... a very intricate one at that, but she met a friend before she got the train, one of my best friends, who told her he was going home, but didn't mention that after that he was going to meet me! (that's where i was getting the train)... so in her head I'm sure she thought it was some kind of hair-brained scheme to see her. As for the falling asleep, it is one of her classic (she has told me she does it... ... ... and yet she still thinks it is a good 'stunt' to pull!) tricks to not have to talk about anything.
Author EthanH Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 just cuz you go NC doesnt mean u need to swear her out of your life forever.....its a good sign u can still be friends one day...nothing worse than breaking up with a girl and she runs and hides with her friends when she sees u walking down the street...be glad Thing is, I don't want to be friends with her. The issue is, she took my email, which I have since shown to a few of my friends, to mean that I was moving on. Everyone else who read it says that isn't what I say in it at all. It is just along the lines of 'I need to respect myself, and for us to even have a hope of working in the future, you need to have more respect for me, so instead of losing the respect you have left for me, by waiting around for you, I'm going to get on with my life.... until you want to fight to be back with me, please just leave me alone'. I feel gutted as she said the email was the main thing which forced her to move on, that for the whole month we didn't speak after it, she went on a cruise with her mother and did a lot of thinking for a week of that... she just realised it wasn't up to her anymore, and the stress was lifted from her. And understandably, that is something which she isn't that keen to go back to.
TaraMaiden Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Ethan listen very carefully:- Give up all hope of a 'back together' scenario. It's - NOT - going - to - happen. Ever. If she wanted you back, she would have made some kind of approach. Falling asleep to avoid a discussion tells you more than words ever will. The only time you renew contact with her, is if she contacts you, admits her dreadful mistake, error of judgement and hasty decision, begs you to take her back, forgive her and let her try again, doing whatever it takes to earn your trust again, however long it takes. Anything else is just blah-blah-blah...... Otherwise, read NOTHING into it, and try to forget about it, because it's not even worth your hard drive memory storage space. Hit delete. Move on. If this ever - EVER - happens again, the best thing I would advise you to do, is to move right away from her, to the opposite end of the carriage. Or better still, into the next carriage. Or even better yet, the next train. That would be best of all.
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