LostInTurn Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I have been on a couple dates. I have someone else who's persistently pursuing me. I don't know if this is normal, but I want nothing to do with any of these people. I just want to be left alone. I have no interest I getting to know someone, having anyone get to know me, talking about myself, etc. Today I told someone there hasn't been anyone I've been completely, 100% happy with. They laughed and asked me if I was serious. My response was 'Well, apparetly not or I wouldn't be single'. I have zero patience.
Don Ho Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Wow. Someone is bitter or depressed. Hope you don't die lonely and old!
Author LostInTurn Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 Nope, I'm just the girl who wore (past tense) her heart on her sleeve. No more. I think I may take up the hobby of 'serial dumping'. Planning dates, going and just dumping people. Maybe that would help me to feel better.
Don Ho Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Nope, I'm just the girl who wore (past tense) her heart on her sleeve. No more. I think I may take up the hobby of 'serial dumping'. Planning dates, going and just dumping people. Maybe that would help me to feel better. Is someone bitter or did someone pee in you Wheaties?
Author LostInTurn Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 I think I just finally realized I'm going to treat people like they've treated me. They're always carefree and wonderful. I'm joining the as*holes.
bonpaw2008 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Big hug Lost - you are just not ready. I am in the same boat always have a lot of attention paid to me but it is the farthest thing from my mind. You have to heal, you have to be ready to try again and not be distracted. Concentrate on making yourself happy, don't look for someone else to do it. That is what will lead to more heartache...
Don Ho Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I think I just finally realized I'm going to treat people like they've treated me. They're always carefree and wonderful. I'm joining the as*holes. You can do that ... but I doubt they're carefree and wonderful. More like shallow and unfeeling. Ok, let's see you try to go be a user and a ho. Start tonite, let us know how that works for you. LOL. Stop the pity party Lost, get up, dust yourself off and get back on the horse, ready or not.
Author LostInTurn Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 I know, I am too nice. Like everyone here. I couldn't do that. There's something in thinking about being that way though that seems like an escape. We've probably all had that thought at one point in our lives. I hope you're right Don Ho. I hope they are just shallow as*holes.
HopeLove Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 You need time to heal, that's why you are not ready for dating yet. Take your time and don't act like an a***le because it won't give you your broken heart again, you'll feel bad and it wouldn't be fair. Btw. we have enough people here in LS so don't bring more, ok? You'll be fine, unfortunatelly it takes time so be patient.
Don Ho Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Get back on the horse, ready or not. You have to move forward and you know it. Remember what I always say: "Someday you will meet the RIGHT person and when you do, you'll wonder why you wasted all that time and emotion on the WRONG person!".
TaraMaiden Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Let me tell you a little story. A little boy in my shop today, looks up at me and says: "You've got a spot on your cheek." He's quite right, I have. So I reply, "Yes, I have. but you know, it was really painful yesterday, but today, it doesn't hurt any more, so I think it's going, do you?" he nodded. His mother was horrified and embarrassed, so I reassured her. "Look," I said, "he's just saying out loud, what a lot of people are secretly thinking. he just hasn't reached the age yet, where our social conditioning teaches us that speaking your mind is not always a publicly acceptable thing to do. we have over time, quashed our own ability to be brutally honest and speak our minds, so we develop the ability to tell white lies, or maintain our silence. I don't personally think this is always a good thing. I think we need to find a middle ground where we should always be free to speak our minds, but also develop the fine ability to do so without reducing the recipient of our honesty to a gibbering, blubbering wreck who can't bear to hear the truth. I'd rather your son told me the truth, than kept his thoughts to himself. I find his frank honesty refreshing. I don't mind it a bit. My spot is better today, though..." She was very grateful I'd been so understanding. But unfortunately, I am still convinced she'll bring him up to err on the side of veiled deceit, lies and politically-correct tact, rather than encourage healthy but courteous self-expression..... Shame. Lost - be honest, open frank and speak your mind. but develop gentleness, for yourself, and others.
9Lives Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I feel the same way. It just means you are not ready to date again. Its not going to be that way forever. You just need a break. When you are back to yourself, you will start again. Having another man or woman right away is not the answer for everyone. I find when I get with someone right away, Im mean and impatient with that person. I know Im not ready cause of how I been acting with people. just chill
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