Sphinx71 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 (edited) I really don't know how to proceed with this but with caution. Please tell me your thoughts. There was a woman I dated a little over two years ago. We were absolutely incredible together. If there was ever a "the one", she was it. I was finally able to move on from the breakup, but always have thought of her. About a month ago, I sent her a email. To see how she was doing. In all honesty, our breakup was kind of weird. She broke things off after almost six months, when I looked up her address online, because I was sending her flowers. I didn't ask, I just looked it up. That made her angry, and a little scared. I never understood why, and she never talked to me after that. Until now. In some ways I would love to see if I could go out with her again, but I certainly don't want to push things. And if I could only be a friend, that would be ok too. But, I don't know how to proceed. Yes, I still do love her. ======================= My email to her on Aug 5th... Good morning XXXXXX, Just wanted to say hi. Not only that, but wanted to sincerely say how sorry I am for the past. I cannot take it back, other than to apologize. I was thinking about you, I had a trip to Laughlin last week and thought I would see if I could write and check in and see how you were. Mom is doing OK, she retired about a year ago finally. Her health is deteriorating, but she is still managing. She now has a housekeeper and is on oxygen most nights. But I still visit her regularly. I live by XXXXXXXX Hosp, and have been out for a little longer than a year. Still work at XXXX XXXX XX, but we lost a lot of employees through the layoffs. Other than that, not much new. If you would ever like to write, feel free. Or you can call @ ###-####. I do hope you and XXXXX are doing well, as is your family. Take good care, XXXX Her email this morning......Aug 29th Good Morning XXXXX, So, it has taken me over a month to figure out if I wanted to respond to your email. I am sorry to hear about the trouble your mom is having. XXXXX and I are doing good. XXXXX started third grade last week after last year I am sure that I am going to fail third grade. I am still going to school and working I am expecting to get laid off any day now. (scary) the office is really slow. My family is good my aunt is getting worse but, at least one of my cousins has stepped up and is now dealing with the situation. I'm glad to hear that you got your own place and that you did not get laid off. The economy is so bad right now lots of people are having problems. As far as the past it is in the past I probably over reacted but it is in the past no apologies necessary. Well, got to finish this chapter so I can take a test today. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY. XXXXXX ============= Any thoughts? If you have questions, let me know. Edited August 30, 2010 by Sphinx71 left phone number in
Thorgs Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Her reply seems kind of empty. I'm not sure how I would take it. She didn't say keep in touch or anything along those lines. Tough to decipher.
Author Sphinx71 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 That is what I thought too, but I don't see why even reply after two years. It is hard to decrypt.
Minnie09 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 She didn't really give you anything in her reply that you can follow up upon. No questions asked, nothing. Sounds like she just wanted to be polite, or maybe she was just bored. Well, she has your number, doesn't she? The reason for the breakup itself sounds a little odd to me, too. You don't get mad about something like that, and it's no reason for ending a relationship. Sorry, but to me it sounds like she wasn't interested (any longer) and just found a convenient reason to end it. I don't think that she would be too interested in getting back together again. However, you can always just send her a reply e-mail and see how it continues. You've got nothing to lose, right?
Author Sphinx71 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 Minnie, thanks for your input. There is just nothing really to follow up on, just seems out of the blue and weird. I know what I want, but can't read anything from the email.
K'aycie Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I really don't know how to proceed with this but with caution. Please tell me your thoughts. There was a woman I dated a little over two years ago. We were absolutely incredible together. If there was ever a "the one", she was it. I was finally able to move on from the breakup, but always have thought of her. About a month ago, I sent her a email. To see how she was doing. In all honesty, our breakup was kind of weird. She broke things off after almost six months, when I looked up her address online, because I was sending her flowers. I didn't ask, I just looked it up. That made her angry, and a little scared. I never understood why, and she never talked to me after that. Until now. In some ways I would love to see if I could go out with her again, but I certainly don't want to push things. And if I could only be a friend, that would be ok too. But, I don't know how to proceed. Yes, I still do love her. ======================= The reason she gave sounds suspect to me. If I was in a relationship with someone for six months, something like that, wouldn't even be an issue and he would have already been over to my house. Especially if it was to send me flowers. That would make me happy, not angry, unless the gesture was unwelcome...
Minnie09 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I read from the e-mail that there's nothing substantial to be followed up on. She would have given you some kind of a hint, if she were interested.
Author Sphinx71 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 It was because she was going through issues with her family for two weeks. I believe it was also because she was stalked by a ex of hers and he found her address the same way. I never asked, and always assumed that is what it was that made her run. A red flag for her. No, I never knew her address, we always met at my house.
K'aycie Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 It was because she was going through issues with her family for two weeks. I believe it was also because she was stalked by a ex of hers and he found her address the same way. I never asked, and always assumed that is what it was that made her run. A red flag for her. No, I never knew her address, we always met at my house. Yeah, that still sounds off. I've never had anyone I was romantically involved with stalk me, but, I have had a few inappropriate advances from members of the opposite sex. If I were you, I would be concerned with the fact that you were never over to her house, when you say you were in a relationship with her and that she has only ever been to your house. If it were my boyfriend, and I was never over to his house like that, it would raise a major red flag for me.
Author Sphinx71 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 Yeah, that still sounds off. I've never had anyone I was romantically involved with stalk me, but, I have had a few inappropriate advances from members of the opposite sex. If I were you, I would be concerned with the fact that you were never over to her house, when you say you were in a relationship with her and that she has only ever been to your house. If it were my boyfriend, and I was never over to his house like that, it would raise a major red flag for me. It didn't for me simply because she was having has her mom living with her to help her out, and I hadn't met her daughter yet. Her mom would watch her daughter whenever we dated. But yes, I can see your point. Just wasnt that major since we were planning for me to meet the daughter soon.
Don Ho Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Let it go for good bro and move on with your life. She just sent back a polite email in response. As much as you would like her back, she gave you NOTHING to indicate that or any interest. Do not read into it. Six months and you were NEVER to her house? Ok, you said she lived with her Mom and daughter. Her Mom could have taken her daughter somewhere at some point in six months and you could have been over there. That seems odd. I would not be at all surprised if she had another guy or and Ex lingering around and used that as an excuse. The other reason I suggest that is WHY would she get so upset that you looked up her address unless you did show stalker behavior before or unless she had something to hide. Sounds shady. No matter, you will probably never know the truth. Just move on and do not contact her again.
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