Now very attached to her.

[lso802]

I'm currently in college and am very focused in my studies. Got straight As. Very happy about that.

 

Now the thing is it happens that when I'm not interested in dating, girls are interested in me either for the ego boost or because of the aloofness. I don't think it has anything to do with me as a person. So I know it's nothing to brag about. Just stating the facts. Yet, there's this one girl who has always been around. She's always very sweet, supportive and making me laugh.

 

Although we're not dating, I keep a distance from other girls, because I just have no interest in them and don't want to make this sweet girl feel bad. I know I have no obligation to her, but I felt like that was something I wanted to do. We're not exclusive. Everyone thinks we're a couple, but she knows I don't want a serious relationship.

 

Fast forward a year later, I'm getting very attached to her. I miss her, if I don't hear from her for a day. I'm not sure, but it also seems like she's becoming distant. She says she's busy with applying to jobs and studying to get into postgrad., but I hear about her from other people. That she is going out, and she has time... it seems just not for me.

 

Also, since I've been so distant from other girls, I'm not as chased as I used to be, and I've got to wonder if her being distant is because other girls are no longer interested me. If that's the reason, it's going to be easy for me to move on from her. I don't want a girl who just wants me, because other girls want me. Just to get a prize sort of thing. I want a girl to like me for me whether anyone else likes me or not.

 

I just needed to put this out there. If you guys have any insights or would like to verbally set me straight, I would appreciate it.

[jamesum]

She probably never liked you in that way from the beginning.

 

It seems she grew distant because she felt that you were getting more attached while she saw you as no more than a friend.