blahblahblaaaaah Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 my girlfriend of 6 months just broke up with me. everything was going great up until about the 5 month mark and I wasn't suspecting that anything was going wrong. she told me that I was the closest thing she would ever find to her dream guy and I felt the same way. then she started having a lot of personal issues. she had a bunch or bad stuff going on at home and she also had a bunch of court stuff she needed to get taken care of. she also had a bunch of family issues to deal with as well and she felt really over whelmed. the more problems that came on to her run the more I would try to help, but ultimately I kept on getting pushed away. she needed time and space to deal with her issues so I waited on her for about a month and she said that while she was gone she lost feelings for me. I checked up on her frequently and I feel like this might have been the cause for the loss of feelings. I find it odd how around me she was always very down but around her family and friends she didn't act too different. now that we have broken up, she texts me a whole lot more from when I was giving her space and I wanna know what her reasoning is for that. and I wanna know if there is ever a chance of getting back with her despite the fact that she has claimed that she's lost feelings. what can I do to get back with her? is there any hope?
Mad Max Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 She's using you as an emotional tampon. Go NC immediately and don't give in. She broke up with you for a reason. Don't let her have the upper hand on you. If someone else comes along, don't hesitate to date them.
Author blahblahblaaaaah Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 yea I've been ignoring her and I'm not counting on it coming back. but do you think by me not talking to her would bring something back out? ive realized that I gave her the upperhand throughout the relationship so if I found a way to make her realize what she's lost she might come back?
Mad Max Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 yea I've been ignoring her and I'm not counting on it coming back. but do you think by me not talking to her would bring something back out? ive realized that I gave her the upperhand throughout the relationship so if I found a way to make her realize what she's lost she might come back? Not likely. If she saw you dating someone, then yes she might want what she can't have. But still, is that the type of person you want?
Author blahblahblaaaaah Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 there is actually a lot of qualities about her that I really like, and I feel like right now she really can't have a relationship because of what's going on with her family and at home. I just wanna know if she's texting me as a friend or if she misses me. cause we did decided that we would remain friends but maybe she misses me? she texts me as frequently as she used to when we first started dating after the fact that we have broken up.
PegNosePete Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 You should not be friends with your ex. She will suck the life out of you and use you for emotional support, without giving you anything in return except false hope and frustration. Don't accept a "downgrade". Do what Max says and go NC immediately.
Author blahblahblaaaaah Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 yea I have and I don't plan on making any contact with her anytime soon. I know we agreed to stay friends but I'm just gonna make contact with her. you think in the period of non contact she might have second thoughts?
Don Ho Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Sorry bro, but she is not coming back. You learned a valuable lesson the hard way: do not be a pussy. You let her have the upper hand in the relationship? WTF were you thinking? BTW, her family "issues" were never the real issue (they rarely are) she was looking for an excuse to dump your ass. Now, dust yourself off and go searching for a new one. And THIS time and from here on out, pick a gal that wants YOU more than you want HER. Never be too nice and do not let her control the relationship. Go read some Doc Love on askmen.com if you want to "get it".
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