Jlovestruckx0 Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Me and my boyfriend are both in high school, he's a senior i'm a junior. Hes going to be graduating and I know that is going to bring a HUGE amount of change to our relationship. My boyfriend says he feels a bit tied down because im not use to the idea of being away from him and so when he wants to go to the occasionally party i always have something smart to say or talk down the idea, i admit to that. I dont want him to feel tied down and i feel like this years there's going to be a million in one things that could go wrong with our relationship , and I'm TERRIFIED. I have so many expectations for this relationship and I don't want anything to go wrong. I know I can change and I am willing to do that and keep on with our relationship, but he suggested that we take a break , or break up and see how it works out for us to try and go out and have fun with other people, he says that this way we end in good terms and are still friends. I honestly don't want to break up, i love him and i know we can make things work , but if he wants to try that then who am I to tell him no? Now i feel like im being forced into a breakup that i dont want. I dont know whether I should let us take that breakup and try to be just friends, or keep working on that change i need to make and still be with him? I feel like eventually when he gets into college this is something that's going to happen again because I know what I want and thats him, but I dont want him to regret not being with other people or experiencing things because he was with me, that would break my heart. So what can I do? Do we need the break up right now , or should we try and work towards things... I want him to be able to have fun and be with me... someone please give me some advice!
Don Ho Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 He's going to dump you anyway. Want some advice I gave another LS member? Have some balls and make him dump you on your terms. Yes, have him dump you now. You are only going to get hurt more if you stick around. What do you want him to do, find another girl first and then dump you? Cheat on you? When someone tells you they want space, that means they have lost ALL interest in you and it's over. If you were a WOMAN, you would cut the pain and the inevitable dumping you're going to get. Say exactly the following next time you talk or see him: "I've been thinking. You wanted space and I AGREE with you. I need to think things over. I think it's best for you to break up with me". If he doesn't say "ok" then repeat. If he doesn't respond, say "I take it from your lack of response this is what you want, so I will consider that you have broken up with me. Take care". THATS ALL!! Hang up or get up and walk away immediately. DO NOT cry, beg, hug, talk about the relationship or anything. Just MOVE ON. Then no contact and no response to him. Makes you feel miserable and want to cry, right? Can't see doing it, right? Makes you feel like you're cutting off your arm, right? Ok. But if you do this, you will be proud of yourself for acting like a strong woman. You will still go through the heartache, but believe me, if you act first, you will feel less hurt for less time. Him dumping you is guaranteed. You feeling bad is unavoidable. Time to act like a WOMAN. Go do what I advised. Good luck.
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