Levitating Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Folks Want to share my experience and hopefully get your views. Been dating this chick for some months, good binding, lots of common ground but some weeks ago she hit at me calling it off based on something not clicking. Honestly, it got me reeling as I saw her excuses were just that, excuses. During the past weeks we've continued to see each other occasionally. First meets ended in her saying to me she didn't understand why that click was not there, given all the things that connected us together and that she was upset by that happening. That she could not find a reason. However last couple of meets were on the colder side for both. I should have stayed NC. Anyway, at one point she hinted it was over. I took it with reluctance but said fine, whatever, it is what it is NOW. Her reaction was yup, I accept that's the situation NOW and things can change. Interesting the other day I hinted I was going on a date and she kind of got all interested in it, to the point she was kind of cheering for me to strike it home. As you know, women say one thing and mean another, anyway made no fuss about her comment, played along and moved on with my business. She even was checking-out as to how I was doing! Bottom line she came out of the other side, after my date which I told her it went OK but nothing much, dropping that she felt there was this deep connection between us, all that chatter, that she felt how nice it was for her to do things together, all that. Let me say at this point that I'm interested in her as otherwise I would have kissed her goodbye. I have my life and she knows that but also knows I'm invested in her. She's cool, different. How to proceed? NC is the clearer option. Me wants to find a way to reopen the gate and I'm a bit worried I'm just sending too many signals of availability. Again, I have my life but I'm also hanging around. It can also be she's emotionally fuc*** up and confused. It can also be she's manipulating. Any strategy tips or between-line reads? Views very much welcome.
TaraMaiden Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Yup. You're friend-zoned. She was genuinely happy you'd moved on and were dating. She then came back, post-date as a really great interactive friend, interested in your happiness, and getting really buddy-buddy. Yup. No mixed messages there at all. Definitely friend-zoned.
Author Levitating Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 Interesting. But the way she spelled the "I feel this deep connection with you" bite sounded rather different. No need to say that. In addition, she has always said to me that she felt for the first time in her life she experienced a relationship with someone (me) where everything ticked in terms of what she wants. It is true that at one stage she closed herself. However she tells me she's living the day and that we're now where we are, who knows tomorrow. Not deluding myself but who knows. I have no expectations, which is good. Does that mean I'm gonna close the door? Nope. The question is if there is a key to open it.
Don Ho Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Yes you are deluding yourself and you do have hopes of getting back together with her otherwise you wouldn't be posting hear and analyzing every little thing she's done. There is NO KEY for you to open anything. Only her. SHE will let you know if she has any interest. I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you. Honestly, she sounds a little psycho. At that point, who cares what she says or does, probably best to stay away unless you're itching for another heartbreak from her.
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