9Lives Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I have been getting on with my life and its definately a good thing. I don't have anything to look back for but its weird knowing that person is gone for good and u not going to see that person again. especially if you live in the same place. its saddens me to know that he is cool with it. I guess that's part of it too. oh well..sigh!
You Go Girl Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I know...yeah... but... seeing them again could be worse than NOT seeing them again. Think about it that way!
flyguy23 Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Seeing them is worse. I have seen my ex the past 3 nights in a row. We go to the same college and there are only a handful of bars. It is the worse, and we hang out with the same people. Its terrible. She keeps saying she loves me etc. but we do not talk besides when we see each other at bars and she is drunk enjoying her life without me in it. Sucks big time for me because how am I going to get over her if I see her every where I go.
skydiveaddict Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I have been getting on with my life and its definately a good thing. I don't have anything to look back for but its weird knowing that person is gone for good and u not going to see that person again. especially if you live in the same place. its saddens me to know that he is cool with it. I guess that's part of it too. oh well..sigh! I read some of your other posts, and I know how awful you feel, I feel the same. It's a horrible thing getting your heart ripped apart, and knowing he (in my case she) is moving along just fine. I hate it too. I cant wait to get deployed again, so I can forget about her (hopefully) I hope your pain will pass too.
Author 9Lives Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 I think u guys are right. it would be worst to see him especially in the condition my heart is in right now. its not that I'm wishing anything. just dealing with the withdrawls and reality of it being reaaly over. it still hurts.
DayAfterDay Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I have been getting on with my life and its definately a good thing. I don't have anything to look back for but its weird knowing that person is gone for good and u not going to see that person again. especially if you live in the same place. its saddens me to know that he is cool with it. I guess that's part of it too. oh well..sigh! Is this the guy that you were pining over for 3 years that moved on to someone else?
Author 9Lives Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 Is this the guy that you were pining over for 3 years that moved on to someone else? yes it is. its been off and on for three years. i don't want to look back anymore. this is the worst rel I have ever had. the most love and the worst pain.
CailinPig Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 OP, it's not likely you'll never see him again. Life has a way of running in mini circles sometimes
Thorgs Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I agree with You Go Girl. Imagine seeing them again. You might have a panic/anxiety attack. So not seeing them again is for the best
Author 9Lives Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 I agree with You Go Girl. Imagine seeing them again. You might have a panic/anxiety attack. So not seeing them again is for the best thank you for easing the anxiety inside. you are right..its best. thanks for the better prespective
Thorgs Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 thank you for easing the anxiety inside. you are right..its best. thanks for the better prespective Any time. For me, I am doing okay (just okay) these days, but I fear the day that I run into my ex.
Username37 Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I see my ex everyday and it pains me. Not seeing them is painful but seeing them is WAY worse. They look happy and its like they never fell in love with us.
realization Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Its almost bittersweet. Coming to the conclusion that I may never see her again would help me heal, but I always think of her as a special person and would love to be her friend again in the future or together again. I have constant reminders of her everywhere, from the gifts she got me to other little things. When I see the gifts and think of the happier times and how much thought and love she put in to it, I feel right back where I started since the break up.
commonlife Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I agree with You Go Girl. Imagine seeing them again. You might have a panic/anxiety attack. So not seeing them again is for the best I agree, yesteday I was driving back home and I saw this girl walking on the side walk with a guy. From the back she looked just the same (same hair, body...) and I got the panic attack, when the light passed green i just rushed to see if it was her and it wasn't. The panick didn't top for a while, so yeah, we should not see theme.
lab_brat Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Aww damm I was so positive this week. I didn't realise till i just read all this now that i'll never get to just curl up with him on the couch again. Like ever. Which i know, is maudlin and overdramatic and sure, i'll meet someone i care about just as much in the future, but still..... ow.
jenster Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I have been getting on with my life and its definately a good thing. I don't have anything to look back for but its weird knowing that person is gone for good and u not going to see that person again. especially if you live in the same place. its saddens me to know that he is cool with it. I guess that's part of it too. oh well..sigh! Hey 9Lives, I can totally relate to your experience, as I am going through something very similar. The guy that I was with was (and to my knowledge still is) fine and dandy with another chick less than a month after things between us fizzled and I had to deal with coming across pictures of them via a mutual friend on facebook; At that point, I was able to confirm that he was in fact seeing her for a while before we went our separate ways. Anywho, despite everything, I am incredibly sad at knowing that it is very unlikely that I will see him again, especially when I remember the many good things we shared and our daily conversations/interaction. We have a good friend in common who recently had a bday party and I opted not to go to avoid bumping into him and I found out that he also didn't attend. It hurts to know that he wants nothing to do with me and does not want to see me, either. He was the one who did something wrong but tried to make me feel as if it had been me that wronged and it really sucks that things went down the way in which they did after going out for two years. He just wanted to get rid of me like if I had been some random chick that he'd just met and quickly got tired of . In the end, I think it is better that I don't see him, but man, is it hard to let go. I guess I'll have to keep focusing on all the bad things he did whenever I think about him...
Veronica K Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 In the early days of NC, I mainly took it one day at a time - but occasionally I would think of it in terms of never seeing him again. That, and knowing I really want to spend time getting to know me, with no new relationship was/is helpful, too.
stillafool Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I have been getting on with my life and its definately a good thing. I don't have anything to look back for but its weird knowing that person is gone for good and u not going to see that person again. especially if you live in the same place. its saddens me to know that he is cool with it. I guess that's part of it too. oh well..sigh! More than likely at some point in your life you will run into them and see them again.
Author 9Lives Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 I'm convenince is is best NOT to ever see him again. I'm with that now. once I get over this pain I don't want to see him again. no need!
Swiss Miss Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Its almost bittersweet. Coming to the conclusion that I may never see her again would help me heal, but I always think of her as a special person and would love to be her friend again in the future or together again. I have constant reminders of her everywhere, from the gifts she got me to other little things. When I see the gifts and think of the happier times and how much thought and love she put in to it, I feel right back where I started since the break up. Pack it all up. Shoebox it all and put it in the back of your closet. These constant reminders will not do you any favors
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