Not the love ace Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 A friend of mine and myself went to my house last night from dancing and hanging at bars. Afterwords she comes and crashes at my place and sleeps in my room, in my bed. One thing led to another and we eventually had sex. Now, I live with my mother, two younger brothers(below 10), and my sister (who's an adult) and when we were having sex I was trying to keep the volume low because of course I don't want my mother or other family members to hear or much less know that we're having sex. Of course we got pretty loud at times but I feel insecure because I kept telling her to lower her tone while she was screaming and moaning. Of course I LOVE the sound of hearing a women moan but due to the circumstance I feel that possibly that could have spoiled the sex. I know for a fact if my family wasn't there I would have broken the bed and she would have lost her voice. However, I just can't have sex with that much volume knowing my family is there, it's TOO awkward for me. Another thing is that I live in an apartment and our rooms are close together and you can definitely hear the noise. Anyone know how I feel and on the same page? You think it was stupid of me to tell her to lower her volume because I was afraid my mother would hear? I just feel kind of embarrassed and like a wuss. Normally I LOVE people to hear us but I just feel too awkward with family hearing. Another question is that we were having sex and she REALLY wanted the sex badly. I felt a bit surprised because she was begging me to do her in each and every direction and was really telling me to do this and to do that, telling me that I was awesome and that she really enjoyed it. It bothered me because I felt like she was just trying to encourage me to better perform but maybe she can be telling the truth? I don't know, any women can answer this? Thanks guys, sorry for my insecurities.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Sure, been there with that. I even had a situation once where my g/f was renting a room--me 25, her 29 at the time but the house owner's sister was visiting and hated the idea of me being upstairs in that totally separate domicile. We weren't even having sex on one occasion--we just fell asleep together and I woke up making verbal sounds while escaping from a dream nightmare. That biotch took a broom handle or something and kept ramming it into the ceiling thinking I just probaly busted a nut. We got our own apartment somewhere else not long after. I advise taking those sexual cues from your lover not as criticisms of your technique. One should expect to adapt to someone else's personal pleasure cues. That's what making love is as opposed to just having sex. It sounds like this love interest of yours knows her body and how to work it to get off. I can't ephasize enough what a bounty that is to have. I hope she proves as good out of bed as in it for you.
Darren Steez Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 umm dude you turned this girl out and you're complaining...go buy yourself a medal..or cheaper yet, just pat yourself on the back. Take her to a hotel and try again, note her reactions then do a comparison.
denise_xo Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Anyone know how I feel and on the same page? You think it was stupid of me to tell her to lower her volume because I was afraid my mother would hear? Another question is that we were having sex and she REALLY wanted the sex badly. I felt a bit surprised because she was begging me to do her in each and every direction and was really telling me to do this and to do that, telling me that I was awesome and that she really enjoyed it. It bothered me because I felt like she was just trying to encourage me to better perform but maybe she can be telling the truth? I don't know, any women can answer this? Thanks guys, sorry for my insecurities. To your first question, that's totally normal and not stupid at all. As for the second question, sounds to me she was just really into you and having a good time. IMO, you're generally much better off with a partner who will tell you what she wants sexually than not. Just relax and enjoy it.
DavidWhite Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I've had to tell me girlfriend to be quiet before and she didn't mind. I think what you did is understandable
Joe Normal Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Sure, been there with that. I even had a situation once where my g/f was renting a room--me 25, her 29 at the time but the house owner's sister was visiting and hated the idea of me being upstairs in that totally separate domicile. We weren't even having sex on one occasion--we just fell asleep together and I woke up making verbal sounds while escaping from a dream nightmare. That biotch took a broom handle or something and kept ramming it into the ceiling thinking I just probaly busted a nut. We got our own apartment somewhere else not long after. What the hell? You should have gone down and told her if she bashes the broom again then you'll shove the handle all the way up her fat behind!
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