Disrespect.

[S Chris]

It's ridiculously hard to form any sort of coherent defense against life's endless rivers of bullcrap when nobody ever stands up beside you against some useless sack of human feces who decides to use you as his jerkoff sock while his buddies dance around flicking insults and laughing at how worthless you are.

 

Yes, I still feel like crap. I'm not getting anywhere in life because the few jobs I have landed have ended in the same fashion every time. Some jerk at work decides to insult me and use me as their butt of all their jokes, and I refuse to participate and insult them back because it's childish, and they get their idiot friends to jump on the god damn bandwagon and push harder every single day to piss me off. The co-workers have known that jerk longer and take his side because I am new and therefore not worth listening to, and the job turns into a giant "insult the fat worthless turd" fiesta.

 

I go to the manager, and the manager tells me to ignore them. But when you are dealing with RELENTLESS insulting and ZERO support it gets INFURIATING. You can't blow off steam by talking to your friends at work because YOU HAVE NONE. You can't blow off steam by talking to your friends outside of work because YOU HAVE NONE. You can't blow off steam to your girlfriend because YOU DON'T HAVE ONE. You can't blow off steam on the internet because trolls ENSURE you will be insulted and told to "stop being emo and ignore them" and make sure a bandwagon forms and drives you away. You can't blow off steam to your family because THEY HAVE THEIR OWN DAMN PROBLEMS AND CAN'T BE ASSED TO WORRY OVER YOURS, TOO. You have to hold it all in and keep TAKING IT UP THE ASS EVERY SINGLE DAY OF EVERY SINGLE MONTH OF EVERY SINGLE DAMN YEAR. And if you speak up even ONCE people SMACK YOU DOWN like you spend all your time insulting others and need a reality check.

 

You can't ask for help because people say you are a crybaby who can't handle the real world. Nobody takes you seriously because you never stop getting pissed off at the BS you deal with. THEY ASSUME EVERYBODY TREATS YOU THE SAME WAY THEY TREAT THEM, and you are just too much of a pansy to handle a little negativity.

 

I don't even care about the replies to this because it will be the same thing as it always is. "You need to calm down and stop worrying about other people." or "You sound like an *******. Grow up." or "Boo hooing won't help. Straighten up." or "cry moar. life is rough. deal with it". I am VENTING here because this is anonymous, and even if I get banned it doesn't mean squat to the real world.

 

I've given up on the real world. This is total BULL****. Somebody is ALWAYS trying to wipe their ass on me and since I have no friends other people make sure to pin me down and cheer the jerk on as he drags his balls across every aspect of my opinion because they want to be popular. NO MATTER WHAT I DO TO TRY AND BE NICE I GET CRACKED IN THE SKULL AND SMEARED WITH FECES. NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY I AM NEVER GOING TO MAKE FRIENDS BECAUSE THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN ALPHA ******* TO MAKE ME LOOK LIKE A FAILURE.

 

Intelligence is wasted on me. I know I'm smart, but that means squat. I know I have talents, but that means horse ****. I know I am a nice person, but that is being killed off by the ENDLESS BULL**** I deal with on a daily basis. I know I have something to offer the world, but that will NEVER matter because I can not pull myself out of this hole alone. And NOBODY is willing to help a overweight bat-**** insane borderline psycho. Since everybody else can gnaw on a pill, or lean on a social circle, I'm OBVIOUSLY BEING A BIG VAGINA ABOUT MY SITUATION. People are never going to stop telling me to blame myself for everything that happens to me. There's just no chance AT ALL that I could be right about how no matter what I do people kick me in the throat and tell me to shut the hell up.

 

Oh no. It's all MY FAULT. I adore suffering and misery and the attention I get because of it. I roll in pity sex and have friends always hanging around me feeling sorry for me and talking about how they wish they could help.

 

OH WAIT. NO I DON'T.

[cellardoor]

Nobody likes a Negative Nellie. You say you have no friends, what are you offering to people that makes you worthy of their friendship?

 

How about instead of looking at what's wrong with the world, you look at what's wrong with you. You actually have control over yourself and are able to change your attitudes and behaviour.

 

You know, you say that people treat you like ****, but have you ever considered that it might be because you allow them to do so? People used to try and treat me like ****, use me as their emotional punching bag and try and tell me that I was worthless - and I took it for a long time. But there comes a point where you realise that people don't take your power, you give it to them.

 

It's not about apportioning blame here, but you have to take responsibility for your life dude. I mean seriously, you don't sound like someone I'd want to be friends with, you sound like a bitter and angry man who blames the world for his problems. So you've got no friends? Maybe take a look at what that says about your current methods.

 

You say you're overweight and bat**** insane, well freakin do something about it man. Stop being a victim.

[L3stat]

WOW:eek:...........

[The Collector]

You've got to zing 'em back. You can't go running to the manager. I could give you suggestions, but you have to find a way that's right for you. Then they will leave you alone, or think better of you, and you'll feel more proud of yourself. It's something most people have suffered, and if you ARE smart you'll figure out a way to effectively handle such situations/jerks. I hear that book 'How To Win Friends & Influence People' is pretty good.

[spiderowl]

It sounds a very unhappy situation for you and I feel sad that you are facing what sounds like bullying. I don't agree that you are always at fault in this kind of situation. Sometimes it really is circumstances and the kind of people you end up having to mix with. It's worth looking at the circumstances that have brought about this unfortunate mix of people.

 

I don't know what job you are doing but it sounds as if you are ending up working with insensitive idiots. It could be that you aren't coping with the normal joking and winding up that men seem to do to actually bond with each other (I think you are supposed to tease back and not be bothered by it, a bit like throwing a ball back and forth). If you take it seriously all the time, then they can't get involved in that natural banter that usually happens between friends.

 

Of course, the above might be totally wrong and you really are just working with idiots. If it's a job that doesn't require much in the way of qualifications, then you will tend to find that some aren't really deep thinkers and are probably not on your wavelength. Can you think of people that you do get on well with (I'm not necessarily talking about at work here but in general, family and so on)? What are the people you get on well with like? What jobs do they do? What are the skills required to do those jobs? Maybe you need to look at getting some qualifications at a similar level (if you haven't already done so) then you can at least work with people with talents and people skills. Just a thought.

[Not the love ace]

I hear you my friend. Trust me, I've been bullied plenty of times and it absolutely, positively sucks. I've been a door mat and its the most annoying thing ever.

 

However, you must bite back in one way or another. Grow some confidence, do something to make you feel empowered. Have you ever thought about weight lifting? Doing some sort of exercise? Ever thought about engaging in some sort of martial art? Sometimes in order to be strong mentality, you have to be strong physically. I know it sounds corny but it definitely works.

 

I used to be picked on and physically I wasn't the most intimidating guy but I decided to start weight lifting and packing on some muscle, then I joined Tae Kwon Doe, Karate, BJJ and even did some wrestling in high school and I really felt the confidence in myself grow.

 

I started becoming more sure of myself, my posture changed and along with that I became more assertive and didn't let people walk over me. Of course this didn't happen over night but when people see you start having respect for yourself, they'll have respect for you. I even had people see a change in me and just knew better to to F--k around with me.

 

I didn't go around bullying anyone of course but I stood my ground and became a no non-sense type of guy. Now, people still joke with me but they know better than to try and make an ass out of me. I never would endorse violence but sometimes you have to challenge an individual to a one-on-one duel and you'll truly see where they stand. More than likely, they won't even take the offer and they'll be embarrassed.

 

You have to make the change within yourself before you can make the change in other people. I wish you the best of luck my friend and hope you finally find peace within yourself and your social life.

[Feelin Frisky]

It's ridiculously hard to form any sort of coherent defense against life's endless rivers of bullcrap when nobody ever stands up beside you against some useless sack of human feces who decides to use you as his jerkoff sock while his buddies dance around flicking insults and laughing at how worthless you are....

 

 

That's some priceless shi+. I know how it feels but you have a way with words my friend. I'm not sure you're looking for anything but a rubber stamp. So, fwiw, I cosign your tirade. Laughing with you--not at you. Hang in there.