Lost all feeling and trapped

[UKGAY]

I have been with my bf for nearly 2 years. About a month ago we spent 4 months apart in terms of sleeping with each other, we have now moved back in with each other (we moved from last place and spent 4 months at own parents) but now i feel as if i have no feeling for him what so ever. I feel no connection to him anymore. I do not feel the same as i once did. The only thing i feel is guilt for renting a house with him, which he can only afford with my help.

 

I feel trapped as i dont want to be with him anymore but i feel i have no choice but to be with him as we have a house together and i dont know if i would have somewhere to go if i did split up with him.

 

I am hurting my self over this and have felt like this for 2 months now and i cant cope with it anymore. how would i go about making it work or splitting up with him without hurting him so much and without losing everything i have...?

[bubbles5]

May be someday u might get frustrated and blow out everything , bcos whenever u will b with him u will keep thinking abt same stuff. And losing out feeling is not a crime, it happens n its natural and its bound that other person would get hurt but if u keep stretching things it may go worst. And abt renting a new apartment is quite difficult but not impossible so u should tell him abt what u feel and soon u should move out if possible "provided u have lost all feeling for him" It happens one fine day u just realize that u got no more feelings for person whom u r with. but why does that happen i also dont know i am also searching answer for that question. And it would be better if u discuss it out if ur bf is understanding.If he is fine if u stay as room mate then u dont have problem n if creates problem u should start finding another place.

[willowthewisp]

So are you saying your feelings only changed when you made a commitment? If so, maybe this book will help He's Scared, She's Scared by Stephen Carter.