CailinPig Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I have one and a half ex's!!! One guy was three and a half years, and the other guy was only 4 months and we weren't proper bf and gf, so he's the half!! My proper ex - I don't hate him at all, however, I've still strong feelings for him. But I've never said a bad word about him, even in the days I didn't wanna be with him, I always thought the highest of him. Likewise, he likes me, he has nothing bad to say about me. He has 2 ex's - me and another girl. He also has a current gf. He hates his other ex, absolutely despises her. Meanwhile he only says nice things about me, and his current gf is a bit wary of that. I'm just wondering about other people?
Username37 Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Hmm.. I hate the person my ex became after the breakup. But as cheesy as it sounds, I will always love her and she has a special place in my heart. Mainly because she was my first love and girlfriend. That you'll always remember.
Author CailinPig Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 I wonder can a person move on from a past relationship if they don't hate their ex? Hmm..
TaraMaiden Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 you have to stop hating an ex in order to move on. If you hate something with such vehemence, you hold them in your heart and mind as strongly and as firmly as if you LOVED them, with all your heart. isn't that what has been said, countless times? The opposite to Love, isn't Hate. The opposite to love, is benevolent Indifference. You don't wish them any ill, but frankly, you also couldn't care less about them.
Author CailinPig Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 ahhh you're so right, I get you! Hmm, I'd never heard that before! Benevolent indifference... hmmm
boltsfan17 Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 All the breakups I've experienced luckily have been mutual except for a few. I don't hate any of my ex girlfriends. As for my ex wife, I actually can say that I hate her. If I saw her broken down in the desert, I wouldn't stop to help. Having said that, I don't think about her or let my hate for her get in the way of me living my life.
boosh Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I've dated a ton of people, but only had 3, actually no, 2 proper relationships. Of those 2, I hate neither. I don't like the person my original ex became afterwards, but I don't hate her. As for my recent ex, I don't hate her at all. In fact, the reasons we broke up are valid, and frankly it needed to happen when it did. Now that's not to say that I don't hate the fact that we're apart, and probably won't ever get back together. I do hate that. But her personally? Nope. I don't think hating an ex is helpful at all. Unless they are a really terrible person and wronged you in some awful manner. But even then hating someone will never get you past that person.
Els Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Still friends with all my exes. We didn't speak immediately following the breakup though.
Veronica K Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I don't hate my ex anymore - I did for a time, though. Close enough to hate, anyway. Now that I'm through that stage, I find myself rapidly approaching indifference. The progress toward that really started ramping up a lot lately. It feels like a weight has been lifted.
Woggle Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I pity my ex wife more than anything these days. There has to be something seriously wrong in her head.
denise_xo Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I have one and a half ex's!!! One guy was three and a half years, and the other guy was only 4 months and we weren't proper bf and gf, so he's the half!! My proper ex - I don't hate him at all, however, I've still strong feelings for him. But I've never said a bad word about him, even in the days I didn't wanna be with him, I always thought the highest of him. Likewise, he likes me, he has nothing bad to say about me. He has 2 ex's - me and another girl. He also has a current gf. He hates his other ex, absolutely despises her. Meanwhile he only says nice things about me, and his current gf is a bit wary of that. I'm just wondering about other people? I have no bad feelings whatsoever for my ex; on the contrary I'm very grateful for the time we had together and the things he did for me. We parted ways, and it was better for both of us. He's in another relationship now and is happy with that. He has a lifestyle that I wouldn't want, I have a lifestyle that he wouldn't want. But we had some great time together
4givrnt4gtr Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Nope, I dont hate any of my exes... However I am now able to see them for what they are, without the love goggles....and wow am I glad im out of all of those relationships. For the most part I feel either sympathy for those who are kind of lost souls and disgust for the one that was selfish and self centered. Other than that....nope, no hate
Lemontang Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I'm with you on that one 4givrnt4gtr. I'm friends with all my ex's bar one. But that's by her choice that she doesn't wish to be friends, albeit the fact she's an alcoholic, highly insecure and slept around on me repeatedly (especially when I was baby sitting her daughter on her so called girls nights out)...and yet I still don't hate her, even her folks almost can't believe that I don't. Rather I feel really sorry for her knowing who she once was to who she is now and the crowd she now hangs and what it was she chose to throw away.
PegNosePete Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I hate what my STBX did, but I don't hate her as a person. She had her reasons for what she did, however bad (in my opinion) those reasons were. What she did caused us to split up, but she didn't do it to deliberately hurt me.
Cee Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 Don't hate any of my exes. It's too much energy to put into a person I have no attachment to. Mostly, I don't think of them hardly at all. (I did go through a grieving process first). With the ex who was truly horrible, I don't hate him either. I feel relief that I left him. And he taught me well who NOT to like.
VeveCakes Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I don't hate my most recent one, even though he seems to really hate me by the things he says. I guess I don't hate any of them, I just don't really think about them at all.
PixieStix Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I am in the same boat with VeVe, I am being hated on like crazy right now by my ex and I have no idea why. His problem, not mine. I have no ill will towards him and actually have tried to help him in any way I could. I think his new gf is the reason for a lot of his hatred towards me because it has only started and gotten worse since he told her that he does still care about me. Nice way of showing it I suppose
pandagirl Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I feel like hate is just as strong emotion as love, and if you hate person, it means you are wasting way too much energy on someone who probably was a jerk and didn't deserve you anymore. I don't hate any of my ex's. The ones I don't really care for? I just feel apathetic. Meh. My most recent ex, he just broke up with me and broke my heart, but nope I don't hate him. There is always a coping period when you have to think about the negatives parts of your ex to help you remember that they weren't right for you, but in the end, I know I will always love him.
Maverick1983 Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 I will always be eternally grateful that I met my ex.I wouldnt trade a day that I spent with her.The 8 years we spent together were great and we just werent meant to be but she is still the most special person that I have met in my life so far.We could never hate eachother.Eventhough I instigated the mutual break up I still respect her decision not to try again.
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