smk Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I come here with a huge dilemma, I met 4 girls last weekend ranging from a smokin hot 18 yr old to a 28 year old smokin hot cocktail waitress and a couple inbetweeners (showing off here I know). Anyways 1 of the 4 girls is kinda starting to annoy me by being too damn eager and she isn't as smokin hot as the other 3, however I need to let the youn lady down and bail on a date that I set up with her... Any tips on how I can achieve this without hurting her feelings? Btw she seems a little psycho I.e she seems like te kinda girl who may show up at my work and stalk me...
TaraMaiden Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Oh you ninny! You need to tell her one of three things: You're gay, and actually, your BF is pretty mad with you that you've been hitting on girls, because it's so unfair on the ladies, to string them along, 'and don't call me any more because when he's mad he gets real ugly'.... You're married with two kids in Indonesia, and your wife is coming over with her mother and the 2 boys, so this has to end here. or you just tell her straight out. You're into multi-dating but you don't think you two gel, and you're sorry, but you hope she finds Mr Right soon, because you know you're not him. Good luck, have a nice life!
Author smk Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 Thanks TM - I forgot to add she is looking to get hitched and settle down and all that crap. Or option 4 is I tell her that I am still getting over my previous relationship... Hmmm tough choice
TaraMaiden Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Really, you should tell her that right now, you have just come out of a relationship that nearly killed you in its ending, so now all you want is to date freely and maybe a couple of FWBs. Really, tell her this. You have to be upfront. From the outset. There is absolutely nothing wrong with playing the field and enjoying a varied sex life, on 2 provisos; One, you stay physically safe, and protect yourself, and act totally responsibly, and Two you are completely open and honest, upfront and candid with the ladies you meet. That's it. it's not Rocket Science, smk.... Think of it being in line with your work.....
Author smk Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 Yeah I am going to be honest with her. I know that she is looking for someone and something that I physically and emotionally cannot give her. Sleeping with her would be wrong and despite being where I am, I still can't be an *********... On the plus side I am starting to feel a little better today, and really looking forward to painting the town red this weekend - seems like a repeat performance of last week...
bonpaw2008 Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Oh you ninny! You need to tell her one of three things: You're gay, and actually, your BF is pretty mad with you that you've been hitting on girls, because it's so unfair on the ladies, to string them along, 'and don't call me any more because when he's mad he gets real ugly'.... You're married with two kids in Indonesia, and your wife is coming over with her mother and the 2 boys, so this has to end here. or you just tell her straight out. You're into multi-dating but you don't think you two gel, and you're sorry, but you hope she finds Mr Right soon, because you know you're not him. Good luck, have a nice life! This on because it's the truth, the others (maybe not the gay one ) will just leave her with hope and we all know what that does ....
PegNosePete Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 On the plus side I am starting to feel a little better today, and really looking forward to painting the town red this weekend - seems like a repeat performance of last week... When you're done painting the town - my hall could use a touch up!
Thorgs Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I say be honest with her. Telling her you're not ready to get back into a relationship because you're still trying to get over your ex is what I'd go with. Or...you can tell her you're part of a Nigerian scam ring and she is the target
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I come here with a huge dilemma, I met 4 girls last weekend ranging from a smokin hot 18 yr old to a 28 year old smokin hot cocktail waitress and a couple inbetweeners (showing off here I know). Anyways 1 of the 4 girls is kinda starting to annoy me by being too damn eager and she isn't as smokin hot as the other 3, however I need to let the youn lady down and bail on a date that I set up with her... Any tips on how I can achieve this without hurting her feelings? Btw she seems a little psycho I.e she seems like te kinda girl who may show up at my work and stalk me... Copy paste this post into an email, that should do the trick. Kudos on 4 numbers though. When it rains it pours.
stargirlxo Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 (edited) Tell her you are really sorry but you are not looking for something serious and won't be able to make it for the date. Then stop replying to texts and stop answering calls. Btw she seems a little psycho I.e she seems like te kinda girl who may show up at my work and stalk me... If you truly are this damn unforgettable, its a chance you will just have to take. Edited August 29, 2010 by stargirlxo
HopeLove Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Tell her you like her but you know she's looking for something serious and because you just broke up you are not able to give her anything and you don't want her to build up any hope and before she might get feelings for you, you would like her to avoid the pain the therefore prefer to not to meet her. Be as much honest as you can. Not only with her, do it with the others too. Be fair and have fun. http://tinychat.com/myrelationship
TaraMaiden Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Whatever you tell her: give her my number :laugh:
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