confuzed_sd Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Hello, My wife and I were drinking wine and took a shot of whiskey and proceeded to making love. As we were making love she told me for the first time that her fantasy is to have a threesome with another women. This slapped me in the face as this was never brought up before. It made me feel horrible inside. My first thought is she probably already is sleeping with this girl behind my back or is very close to doing it. We are both 29 years old, married, and have a daughter. I work and she stays at home. I suspect it is with a girl she met from college as she recently graduated. I love her with all my heart and found it crushing that she wants to bring someone into our marriage. I realize she was drunk and in the moment, but this still means the fantasy is in her mind. How do I talk about this when she wakes up. I'm afraid if I tell her i'm against it, she'll do it with this girl anyway if she isn't doing it already.
WalkingOnEggs Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Great thinking! Despite a night of drunkedness you had the good sense and lucidity to wake up first thing in the morning and make your first post here on LS! Try harder next time. Hello, My wife and I were drinking wine and took a shot of whiskey and proceeded to making love. As we were making love she told me for the first time that her fantasy is to have a threesome with another women. This slapped me in the face as this was never brought up before. It made me feel horrible inside. My first thought is she probably already is sleeping with this girl behind my back or is very close to doing it. We are both 29 years old, married, and have a daughter. I work and she stays at home. I suspect it is with a girl she met from college as she recently graduated. I love her with all my heart and found it crushing that she wants to bring someone into our marriage. I realize she was drunk and in the moment, but this still means the fantasy is in her mind. How do I talk about this when she wakes up. I'm afraid if I tell her i'm against it, she'll do it with this girl anyway if she isn't doing it already.
Author confuzed_sd Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 Come again? Is your comment hinting to try harder at making love? That's not very helpful at all. I have not gone to sleep yet (its 2 am here) as I cant due to this stressful new discovery. My wife is a light weight and is passed out. I'm very serious and would like advise before she wakes up in the morning. I need to know if it's worth bringing it up or if I should act like nothing happened.
WalkingOnEggs Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Come again? Is your comment hinting to try harder at making love? That's not very helpful at all. I have not gone to sleep yet (its 2 am here) as I cant due to this stressful new discovery. My wife is a light weight and is passed out. I'm very serious and would like advise before she wakes up in the morning. I need to know if it's worth bringing it up or if I should act like nothing happened. My advice is that you improve your trolling skills. Better you should have said that you intercepted messages from her and her friend suggesting they talk to you about a threesome. And then you come here and ask what your reaction should be. That would have been more credible.
BlackLovely Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Hello, My wife and I were drinking wine and took a shot of whiskey and proceeded to making love. As we were making love she told me for the first time that her fantasy is to have a threesome with another women. This slapped me in the face as this was never brought up before. It made me feel horrible inside. My first thought is she probably already is sleeping with this girl behind my back or is very close to doing it. We are both 29 years old, married, and have a daughter. I work and she stays at home. I suspect it is with a girl she met from college as she recently graduated. I love her with all my heart and found it crushing that she wants to bring someone into our marriage. I realize she was drunk and in the moment, but this still means the fantasy is in her mind. How do I talk about this when she wakes up. I'm afraid if I tell her i'm against it, she'll do it with this girl anyway if she isn't doing it already. A few things my dear: A fantasy is NOT a sign the person has already indulged in it or is about to. It is merely a representation of a sexual act, which the fantasizer is curious about-NOTHING MORE. I'm finding it sadly funny that you actually believe that this is a sign she's cheating with a woman. She doesn't want another woman in your marriage, just your bed for a night. There's a huge difference. In marriage, spouses should be able to share any sexual secrets because a monogamous relationship offers the feeling of safety. Even if a spouse is not willing to fulfill a fantasy, the other should be able to listen and express their wishes as well. I do sexual things with my hubby that I have never done with another man. He's not into all my fantasies, but he will listen and respond honestly. Great sex always starts with communication. I am actually surprised that your wife's fantasy didn't turn you on. I thought every man wanted two women at once. My hubs told me that I'm all the woman he needs, when I told him I wanted to bring another woman in sometime. I have no desire to cheat on him at all. You must NOT be afraid to talk to your wife about anything. You and she are married, for God's sake! If you can't talk to her, who else can you talk to? Is this even a real post or are you a troll?
SoConfusledandHurt Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Tell your wife what my fiance tells me "honey we dont need to bring anyone into our hot sex life, but we can talk about it as much as we want when having sex" Sometimes when Im buzzed Ive told my fiance I want to be in a gangbang...when in real life I wouldnt do it.
Author confuzed_sd Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 thanks for the advise you guys. she brought it up herself early morning and apologized for saying that. I insisted that she tell me everything she really feels but she said that she has no desire to do a threesome. it was just in the moment of being 'erotic'. I think im good.
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