whiterose15 Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 (edited) If you have lived a double life for a few yrs had two kids with the OW, got stuck just getting deeper in the poison of lies and guilt, but never left your wife, who u had no kids... Paid a big price, learned a big lesson through very harsh results of life. Long story. After finding out that OW was playing u and woke up to realize it was well deserved and a price that was over due 'cause of action and damage to done to the marriage and wife; guilt takes over your health. Leave OW. OW never wanted to be a mom gives away custody of children to you, who loves to be a father. What's to recover wife. To your luck wife still loves her husband. Can you recover the emotional effect done to your wife and reconstruct your relationship into a healthy one? Can the wife over come it and reconstruct a healthy relationship with her husband and new package (small children)? Edited August 28, 2010 by whiterose15
Stung Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 If you have lived a double life for a few yrs had two kids with the OW, got stuck just getting deeper in the poison of lies and guilt, but never left your wife, who u had no kids... Paid a big price, learned a big lesson through very harsh results of life. Long story. After finding out that OW was playing u and woke up to realize it was well deserved and a price that was over due 'cause of action and damage to done to the marriage and wife; guilt takes over your health. Leave OW. OW never wanted to be a mom gives away custody of children to you, who loves to be a father. What's to recover wife. To your luck wife still loves her husband. Can you recover the emotional effect done to your wife and reconstruct your relationship into a healthy one? Can the wife over come it and reconstruct a healthy relationship with her husband and new package (small children)? I personally could never recover from this. Even if by some small chance I stayed with my husband, our marriage would never be the same, and although I love children and have children of my own, it would be very hard to not think of the OW every time I looked at my husband's children. It would take an ENORMOUS amount of work over a long period of time to even hope to get real forgiveness from the wife in your situation, in my opinion. BUT there are always other perspectives in other women, other cultures. Maybe the wife is a more forgiving person than I am, with different motivations and beliefs. No one answer fits all, and nobody on this board can predict the future with 100% accuracy.
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