So, i fired my general manager today....

[2sunny]

ok - so you got rid of him under many justified reasons. good for you!

 

now tell me you also got rid of the gal that betrayed you as well? or did you keep her knowing she's no better than he is?

[MissMayhem]

Well, me and my "rebound" broke up 3 weeks ago or so. It was mutual and very cordial i guess you would say. But things started to seem a little strange, well. After some investigating, it turns out her and my GM of almost 2 years, been with my since my start, have been screwing around for the last couple weeks, behind my back.

 

So I had to do one of the hardest things ever, and fire him, because not only is it disrespectful in my eyes. I just can't trust someone like that anymore. What I really don't understand is we are very good friends, and he knows everything i've been going through for the last 3-4 months, is how he could do it to me.

 

He took it much better than I expected. I even helped him pack his tools. It hurt badly but what they did was wrong on so many levels.

 

So go ahead take up for him, i really couldn't care less, and I don't blame you because you don't know the whole situation. For a day I felt like maybe I was wrong, then I found out about the rest, and some of his friends, that didn't really know it found out, and sided with me.

 

 

First of all, I inserted your original post because it was ALL about the girl and no mention of any of these other things. If you'd posted that you'd fired this guy because he was a druggie, was stealing from the business, was rude to the customers, harming the business, etc., everyone here would have backed you up immediately but that's not what you said. You said you fired him over this girl. I understand that you feel betrayed but when you're in a managerial position or power position, you can only look at the facts. If personal feelings could come into play in every work place, it would be utter chaos.

 

And you've just admitted that you've only found out about the rest AFTER the firing. So I stick to my original opinion - since you fired him over the girl, then you were wrong. I'm not sure how old you are since you were dating a 19 year old yourself but experience and maturity will show you in time that this was not a responsible move for the reason you gave.

 

I think you're very lucky that these other things have come to light (stealing, rudeness to customers). If he is as bad as you now say, then good riddance. I also back up a previous poster when they pointed out that what this guy does at home has no bearing on his job except where the drugs come into play or if he was sexually harassing someone at work and a lawyer would advise you of this.

 

Good luck to you. I would also advise not to discuss this anymore with your other co-workers. What you say can come back to bite you in the a**. Silence is golden in the work place when situations like these arise. You can't trust them anymore than you could trust him not to repeat what you've been saying.

 

Again, good luck.

 

PS - it's very kind of you to be concerned about this girl hanging out with the wrong crowd. Where is her family? If you've known her for so long, maybe mention your concerns to them but I would do it very cryptically because you certainly aren't in a position at the moment to go around making accusations about this guy. In any state, I believe, it's against the law to say anything against this guy that would prevent him from getting another job. You have to handle that part very carefully.

 

If a potential employer for him calls you to inquire about him, you have to be very careful about what you say. I would study up on that if I were you so you will be prepared.

[Trimmer]

See, now those reasons you left out may likely turn out to be the ones that could protect you from an action, so yeah, they were pertinent to the discussion.

 

Bottom line here, OP, do you have a lawyer that does work for your business, like filing your original organizational papers, etc? This is really something that I think is worth spending an hour of his/her time reviewing, to make sure you have all your ducks in a row "just in case." Otherwise, you are walking around in the dark without a light (and even worse, taking advice from the internet, when if you really want to protect yourself, you should be getting it from a competent lawyer familiar with your business and your state.)

 

I really think the peace of mind would be worth an hour or so of consultation. You should prepare NOW; consider it an insurance policy, and also an education on employment issues for the future of your business.

Edited September 2, 2010 by Trimmer

[Not strong enough]

ok - so you got rid of him under many justified reasons. good for you!

 

now tell me you also got rid of the gal that betrayed you as well? or did you keep her knowing she's no better than he is?

 

 

Yes she's long gone.