Nappeal Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Let me preface w : I AM NOT OVER MY EX AND IT WILL BE A WHILE BEFORE I AM. Ok, now that I"m done ... I am noticing day by day, little by little, that I am becoming more understanding of my situation. I still hurt throughout the day; I still have questions pop up in my head all day about the BU...I am NOT over this, but the pangs of hurt don't last quite as long, and I'm pretty good at talking myself out of a panic attack (except for the mornings after I dream of him...fkr). However, I REFUSE to give soo much time to someone who could leave me like he did. I REFUSE to drain a ton of emotion and energy into someone like that. I REFUSE to let myself feel like this for a long time. Its been less then a week since X and I last had contact (we are in LC because of the preg, but otherwise very strict NC), so I hope that I am not getting ahead of myself or fooling myself here, but I see progress and it makes me hopeful that it will continue @ this pace - HOPEFULLY. But, I too wonder if 3 wks post-BU is too early to think you're moving on...I wasn't w the X for long, and tho I do/did love him very much, we hadn't had an extremely deep relationship. I don't have a whole lot to mourn. What's everyone's take? What would you consider too early a time to start moving on? Is there too short of a period? I'd like some imput...thanks guys
LostInTurn Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 It's situational. There are days, now four weeks later, when I think I don't even love my ex anymore. You are correct though. Once you start to think about the relationship with a more reasonable mindset, you think about things. You start to think about the situation as whole; rather then what's happening right this minute! Some days I don't even know if I love my ex anymore; which leads me to question if I ever did truly love my ex. The time it takes, is the time it takes. I can't say for a 12 month relationship it will take 7.5 weeks. You sounds like me right now. You're not allowing yourself to put all your energy griveing this. You want to reclaim some of yourself. I understand,and it's a good thing. Completely normal. I still think about my ex. But that doesn't mean I don't want 'me' back. I want me back. Trust me. I used to be fun.
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