In_Repair Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Magic huh? Welcome to Affair World, home of the worlds largest roller coaster. Please keep hands and feet inside the ride at all times.
NoIDidn't Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Magic huh? Welcome to Affair World, home of the worlds largest roller coaster. Please keep hands and feet inside the ride at all times. True. The "magic" is usually after the latest rendezvous. Then the coaster takes a wild dip before swinging back to "magic".
ladydesigner Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Magic huh? Welcome to Affair World, home of the worlds largest roller coaster. Please keep hands and feet inside the ride at all times. I love it! Another poster also mentioned magic being an illusion. In my A it was exactly that, just an illusion.
Italian flower Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 My SO asked me today if I have EVER felt as good in someone else's presence as I do in his? Anybody else - parents, friends, siblings, other lovers? I said No. And he replied, "I can say the same too". Very simply, this is at the core of what he and I like to call "the magic" and why we are on The Plan trying to reach our goal. The magic is why IT'S WORTH IT. Whether it ultimately worked out or not - raise your hands if you've ever felt "the magic"! Because it's good for people to know it exists. Sorry TOW, I was wrong on my speculation. I thought you had left your SO and were trying to justify that you'd find what you had with him elsewhere. I see now that you're still together and were just trying to give others hope that there's magic out there for them. To all those out there who have found said magic, hang on no matter what. That real true lasting deep love and magic happens only once in a lifetime. But I must be clear, real magic is defined by length of time. Not just how long you've been together but by how much time you spend talking and interacting with each other. It should feel right on day one and right on day 10,001. And most importantly, when life doesn't get in the way, where you want to spend all of your free time: with your SO. This is true magic and only a fraction of us will find it to this degree in our lifetimes. If you are one of these lucky few give it the value it deserves and don't discard it!
jennie-jennie Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Sorry TOW, I was wrong on my speculation. I thought you had left your SO and were trying to justify that you'd find what you had with him elsewhere. I see now that you're still together and were just trying to give others hope that there's magic out there for them. To all those out there who have found said magic, hang on no matter what. That real true lasting deep love and magic happens only once in a lifetime. But I must be clear, real magic is defined by length of time. Not just how long you've been together but by how much time you spend talking and interacting with each other. It should feel right on day one and right on day 10,001. And most importantly, when life doesn't get in the way, where you want to spend all of your free time: with your SO. This is true magic and only a fraction of us will find it to this degree in our lifetimes. If you are one of these lucky few give it the value it deserves and don't discard it! My MM said that early on when we had reconnected and were planning to meet up again for the first time: "7 hours would not be enough, but neither would 7 years." We still spend every free moment together, and we are getting close to those 7 years now.
Italian flower Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I've had the 'magic' in 2 relationships in my life and 1 that was safe and companionable. I would prefer to live the magic even for a short time than settle for safe and companionable. I would rather feel the heartache of losing someone I loved so deeply than simply missing someone to watch the news with on a winter night. I won't give up on finding the right person and I know now that I'll never settle for less than I had with the 2 that provided the magic. I'd rather be alone than settle. That is very wise SB. However, I think your true magic is yet to be found. Your prior relationships may have have had magic in them but the true depth of the level of magic I'm describing and that I beleive TOW has felt is deeper and long lasting, intensifying over time. You will find it and when you do you'll know what I'm describing. And if you do, you won't let go.
crazycatlady Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Sorry TOW, I was wrong on my speculation. I thought you had left your SO and were trying to justify that you'd find what you had with him elsewhere. I see now that you're still together and were just trying to give others hope that there's magic out there for them. To all those out there who have found said magic, hang on no matter what. That real true lasting deep love and magic happens only once in a lifetime. But I must be clear, real magic is defined by length of time. Not just how long you've been together but by how much time you spend talking and interacting with each other. It should feel right on day one and right on day 10,001. And most importantly, when life doesn't get in the way, where you want to spend all of your free time: with your SO. This is true magic and only a fraction of us will find it to this degree in our lifetimes. If you are one of these lucky few give it the value it deserves and don't discard it! I disagree with this part - though I like what you had to say for the rest. I don't want to spend all my free time with my H. I like having time for my girl friends, or some one on one with a kiddo....or even some time for just myself. I love my me time. That said, H and I keep in touch all day long. If we are away from each other we often text. We have conversations, not just about finances or the kids or the house or work, but books and movies, art and music, world history politics religion, you name it, we talk about it. We do math problems (we are such nerds). We argue until one of us can prove our side right (but only in a fun way). The time we spend together is quality, quality is way better then quantity any day of the week. Which I bet is something the ladies in the affairs can relate to. I know plenty of married couples who spend almost all their time with each other. But they aren't WITH their partner. Not mentally. Its just being. There is a huge difference. CCL
Author TOWinNYC Posted September 3, 2010 Author Posted September 3, 2010 Sorry TOW, I was wrong on my speculation. I thought you had left your SO and were trying to justify that you'd find what you had with him elsewhere. I see now that you're still together and were just trying to give others hope that there's magic out there for them. To all those out there who have found said magic, hang on no matter what. That real true lasting deep love and magic happens only once in a lifetime. But I must be clear, real magic is defined by length of time. Not just how long you've been together but by how much time you spend talking and interacting with each other. It should feel right on day one and right on day 10,001. And most importantly, when life doesn't get in the way, where you want to spend all of your free time: with your SO. This is true magic and only a fraction of us will find it to this degree in our lifetimes. If you are one of these lucky few give it the value it deserves and don't discard it! Yes - for us it has been YEARS and it still astonishes me.
jenifer1972 Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 I have met someone but romantic love is an unstable and more often than not temporary thing. In most cases it has an expiration date. Ah yes! Wait for it...... there it is.......Woggle's rain on the parade...
torranceshipman Posted September 3, 2010 Posted September 3, 2010 Yes for sure! And at the risk of sounding super cheesy...I feel that magic within myself first of all (you need to be your own best friend, and be proud of who you see in the mirror every morning, and know you can make it on your own and greatly value your own company before you can enjoy the company of others, in my view), and also with the big guy upstairs (on a spiritual level) - those are the most important things to me - and THEN the next is feeling it with my SO, who is a truly awesome guy (which is why I am marrying him ).
waterlove Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 you are so lucky to get to be with you partner, wake up, go to sleep, be with him. are you on this forum because you like to joke you are your husbands mistress, or was one of you in another relationship and left it for each other? just curious. I can only wish for nights with my MM, mornings rarely happen...to just relax on the couch together is a rare occurence because he is married! I just want the simple things, but wonder if the passion would leave. Sounds like you have a very passionate marriage and i both envy and cheer you. I love the magic feeling, the looking accross a room and we catch each other's eye and that familiar smile and 'oh there you are' feeling. The waking up and snuggling and feeling that this is the man I will be with for eternity, making dust with, the kiss at the back of my neck when he comes home and I am doing something. The feeling of belonging when we hug, I fit just right onto his chest and his arms fit just right when he hugs me. I cannot imagine this with anyone else, I believe in love at first sight, I remember the feeling of recognition when I first saw him and so did he, I still feel this after this long time and despite blips, still feel this. The magic is the icing on the cake, at times it can dip, but it is always there. I once saw an old couple sat on a bench watching the sun come down, they were holding hands and laughing. I spoke to them and he said they had done this from when they first met, had been together 60 yrs and this was their bench. She had Alzheimer's, but she knew this was their place and where she was happiest. I want that magic.
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