Author TOWinNYC Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 Thanks everyone for responding! Was hoping to hear more stories....because magic exists! I posted this on a different thread but here's one story: I know a woman who is a senior citizen. She had a very difficult M to "the boy next door" who was also an alcoholic. He died 10 years ago (she nursed him through his cancer). A couple of years ago she went to a jazz concert, met someone and has been dating him. They are getting married in December and I am so happy for her! See....it doesn't matter how old you are or how long it has been since you've been touched by magic....it's out there. It exists. For everyone who has it, I think it's wonderful. And for everyone who currently doesn't, don't lose faith.
White Flower Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 (edited) For everyone who has it, I think it's wonderful. And for everyone who currently doesn't, don't lose faith. What excellent advice. It is out there, and can be found at any age. My neighbor in her 60s has a lost love who returned after 30 years. He's M now, but very unhappy. They see each other every day, have sex many time each day, travel together, etc. When he went into the hospital one night it was she who took him there, held his hand, and took him back home. She doesn't want him full time, only wants exactly what she has. This is HER magic and she looks younger than I've ever seen her. Old enough to be my mother yet I envy her! Edited August 28, 2010 by White Flower
OWoman Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I don't know if what we have is magic, but it sure is bliss :love:
Silly_Girl Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Suits me to use the term 'magic'. I can list all sorts of things and feelings and situations with MM that mean something to me, some seem trite and some silly. But when we're together, or in touch, there's just SOMETHING unlike anything I've known before. And because I can't find a useful or valuable way to summarise it, I like the 'magic' description.
White Flower Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Suits me to use the term 'magic'. I can list all sorts of things and feelings and situations with MM that mean something to me, some seem trite and some silly. But when we're together, or in touch, there's just SOMETHING unlike anything I've known before. And because I can't find a useful or valuable way to summarise it, I like the 'magic' description. Excellent point Silly Girl. We can agree to disagree on the definition, whether it is literal or imaginary, but we can all agree that the feeling exists even if we've never experienced it before. So many others demonstrating that joy in their lives tells us so. They have the harmony that we want so it is easy to believe. I never knew it would happen to me, and I am grateful now that it has. BTW, my thread was called, 'Magical Sex'. When you find that kind of magic, the sex is off the charts as well.
Cee Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Magic, simply defined? Illusory, impermanent, wondrous and reality-masking. Oh and (edit) fun while it lasts. However: Name me one single thing, that isn't. (No, really, get your thinking caps on.... name me ONE.) Ah, magic... It is wondrous and fleeting. But when it's not fleeting, it's called everyday life. And while there is much less magic in my life as I've grown older, I am experiencing more common place satisfaction and happiness. I'm single so I find magic in non-romantic pursuits. Like when practice improv comedy in a group and it works. Or get absorbed in doing a piece of art. Or when I meet a new friend. I experience magic the most when I go dancing- the music transports me. I admit I am fantastical in my thinking so I see magic in practically everything I do.
Silly_Girl Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I never knew it would happen to me, and I am grateful now that it has. Ditto!!!! I wish I were better able to feel gratitude for that without sometimes feeling fear that I may never find it again with someone else. BTW, my thread was called, 'Magical Sex'. When you find that kind of magic, the sex is off the charts as well. Yes! Yes! Yes!
White Flower Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Yes! Yes! Yes! Was that a sexual exclamation or a literary one? I can hear Meg Ryan in When Harry met Sally...
TinaniT Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Was that a sexual exclamation or a literary one? I can hear Meg Ryan in When Harry met Sally... And if the former, you know you are spending too much time on Loveshack when you start typing it out. Nice thread
GreenEyedLady Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 My SO asked me today if I have EVER felt as good in someone else's presence as I do in his? Anybody else - parents, friends, siblings, other lovers? I said No. And he replied, "I can say the same too". Very simply, this is at the core of what he and I like to call "the magic" and why we are on The Plan trying to reach our goal. The magic is why IT'S WORTH IT. Whether it ultimately worked out or not - raise your hands if you've ever felt "the magic"! Because it's good for people to know it exists. I'm living the magic. I can say that when my mom told me that there was one man for me, I thought she was nuts. And I met my H. And he was made for me. No matter our trials and tribulations, he is the one for me. Everything that we have went through together as a couple is worth every drop of sweat, blood and tears. He is the love of my life and forever will be! We were meant for each other and we will defend the other until our dying day! I love my husband! GEL
Woggle Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Just like the rabbit in the hat kind the magic that we call love is an illusion as well.
GreenEyedLady Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Just like the rabbit in the hat kind the magic that we call love is an illusion as well. This is so sad. One day you will meet someone who will show you that this is a completely false statement. Love is not an illusion. Love is more real than most people realize. (HUGS) GEL
Woggle Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 This is so sad. One day you will meet someone who will show you that this is a completely false statement. Love is not an illusion. Love is more real than most people realize. (HUGS) GEL I have met someone but romantic love is an unstable and more often than not temporary thing. In most cases it has an expiration date.
GreenEyedLady Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I have met someone but romantic love is an unstable and more often than not temporary thing. In most cases it has an expiration date. Then break up with her! You should both feel the same way about each other. And I'm sorry if you are ALREADY thinking about an expiration date, you probably won't make it. Your first wife did a terrible thing to you. But not every woman is like that. Open your heart and miracles happen. GEL
Woggle Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Then break up with her! You should both feel the same way about each other. And I'm sorry if you are ALREADY thinking about an expiration date, you probably won't make it. Your first wife did a terrible thing to you. But not every woman is like that. Open your heart and miracles happen. GEL She is pretty the best I will ever have and that is not a slight against her. I just don't expect any women to ever stay in love and if the day ever comes that she falls out of love I will not be surprised. I hope it doesn't happen but I am ready if it is.
fooled once Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 *raises hand* We have been married three years, and each year is better than the last! I've been married 12+ years and I agree - each year is better than the last! Of course, I have felt the magic also for over 20 years, since the day I knew I was having a child. (A completely different magic than the magic I feel with my honey, but magic that I grew this incredible life in me and was allowed to raise him to the man he is today)
crazycatlady Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Magic is beautiful and wonderful....But it must be fed or it will wither away and die. We have magic....He told me the night we met we would be married, the next day he named our son (5 years later we had that son even though the first time around we had a different boy's name picked out when we were expecting the first time, funny how it turned out we had a girl - we didn't find out before hand either time). He proposed easily 25 times because he loved hearing me say yes, until the final time when we finally decided to elope. During basic training graduation I could pick him out from a sea of dressed alike people. I just knew him. Its a zing to find him across a crowded room. We once almost lost the magic in living every day life....We didn't tend it, didn't keep it precious because we didn't know just how weak it could be against the constant drip of normalacy. Luckily we caught it was were able to rekindle it. And then of course there was last year, but our magic wasn't gone, he just discovered additional magic with someone else. But that was one of the reasons why I didn't not on finding out immediately say "her or me!" Magic is amazing....love is awesome. Its hard to say its wrong.... Its 13 years in a couple of days. Not the longest, not the shortest. Its been up and down high and low but the magic zings. We were out today shopping, and he came up to me at the book store and place his hand on my waist, really just a very light touch. And he lit me up like a firecracker. I was instantly aroused from just that one simple touch. He told me later that he came up to me because I had been leaning over looking at a book with my son and the sight of my bottom had turned him on. He managed to transfer his state of arousal on to me with just that touch. CCL
NoIDidn't Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Snide snide snide. As if magic can and should only be experienced within the sanctity of M. Yes, TOWinNYC, I have felt this magic. I started a thread on it once. I'm happy for you, as anyone would be at this joyous time for you. Surely, you jest? An OW posts about magic in her affair as if it only happens in affairs. A married poster posts that many people feel it when they get married (its a motivating factor). I agree with him and state that some are actually able to keep it in their marriages (instead of feeling the need for affairs to feel it), and I get called "snide" and then followed by the obligatory "as if" statement???!!!! When did I say that it only occurs within marriages? And what is wrong with the "sanctity" of marriage? Good grief. Simple statements get twisted into pretzels in this forum.
NoIDidn't Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Because she is implying that those who D or never marry don't know how. Some people just get lucky and don't know anything. Others get lucky and still have to work hard at staying M. Some work hard on their M while their spouse refuses to work on it. Those are the unlucky ones, but it doesn't mean they didn't know how to keep their M; it only means they didn't have a spouse willing to share in that work. If she didn't mean it that way, well all I can say is that's what you get when you over simplify your posts. I would never say that magic should be experienced outside of marriage only. Magic is magic (or love is love) and it should be experienced througout life whether M or not. Ummm, no. What happened in your response is what you get when you assume. I didn't say a thing about divorce, affairs, or otherwise. I agreed with another poster.
Summer Breeze Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I've had the 'magic' in 2 relationships in my life and 1 that was safe and companionable. I would prefer to live the magic even for a short time than settle for safe and companionable. I would rather feel the heartache of losing someone I loved so deeply than simply missing someone to watch the news with on a winter night. I won't give up on finding the right person and I know now that I'll never settle for less than I had with the 2 that provided the magic. I'd rather be alone than settle.
silktricks Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 She is pretty the best I will ever have and that is not a slight against her. I just don't expect any women to ever stay in love and if the day ever comes that she falls out of love I will not be surprised. I hope it doesn't happen but I am ready if it is. This could end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy, and that is what makes it most sad.
Silly_Girl Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I've had the 'magic' in 2 relationships in my life and 1 that was safe and companionable. I would prefer to live the magic even for a short time than settle for safe and companionable. I would rather feel the heartache of losing someone I loved so deeply than simply missing someone to watch the news with on a winter night. I won't give up on finding the right person and I know now that I'll never settle for less than I had with the 2 that provided the magic. I'd rather be alone than settle. Lovely. I can really identify with this
xxoo Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 The magic we feel when we *connect* with someone is amazing (H and I have that magic--our chemistry is off the charts), but it isn't enough to make a long term relationship work. I'm guessing that couples who are on again, off again have a lot of this "magic", but not enough emotional health, maturity, and commitment. Being together feels good, being apart feels bad, the sex is amazing, the conversations are transcendent, but the partner doesn't consistently act in healthy, committed ways. The magic may never disappear, but eventually it just isn't worth the pain.
Mousenotminnie Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I definitely know the MAGIC you speak of. My first love I have been experiencing it everyday for the last 2+ years after rekindling it after being apart for 22 years. Definitely TRUE LOVE and will last a lifetime and beyond.
Mousenotminnie Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 My SO asked me today if I have EVER felt as good in someone else's presence as I do in his? Anybody else - parents, friends, siblings, other lovers? I said No. And he replied, "I can say the same too". Very simply, this is at the core of what he and I like to call "the magic" and why we are on The Plan trying to reach our goal. The magic is why IT'S WORTH IT. Whether it ultimately worked out or not - raise your hands if you've ever felt "the magic"! Because it's good for people to know it exists. I know exactly what you mean. We too have a PLAN with a specific GOAL to reach. I wish you all the best with yours and pray that you attain you accomplish your goal.
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