TOWinNYC Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 My SO asked me today if I have EVER felt as good in someone else's presence as I do in his? Anybody else - parents, friends, siblings, other lovers? I said No. And he replied, "I can say the same too". Very simply, this is at the core of what he and I like to call "the magic" and why we are on The Plan trying to reach our goal. The magic is why IT'S WORTH IT. Whether it ultimately worked out or not - raise your hands if you've ever felt "the magic"! Because it's good for people to know it exists.
Art_Critic Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 raise your hands if you've ever felt "the magic"! Most people who get married feel the magic.. that is one reason why people get married.
SidLyon Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 My SO asked me today if I have EVER felt as good in someone else's presence as I do in his? Anybody else - parents, friends, siblings, other lovers? I said No. And he replied, "I can say the same too". Very simply, this is at the core of what he and I like to call "the magic" and why we are on The Plan trying to reach our goal. The magic is why IT'S WORTH IT. Whether it ultimately worked out or not - raise your hands if you've ever felt "the magic"! Because it's good for people to know it exists. Magic? Is a trick or an illusion.
Capris Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I raise for the magic!! Wish we were on somekind of plan though. But hooray for the magic!!!!
NancyBotwin Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 *raises hand* We have been married three years, and each year is better than the last!
NoIDidn't Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Most people who get married feel the magic.. that is one reason why people get married. Yep, and some even know how to keep it in their marriages.
Capris Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Magic? Is a trick or an illusion. goosebumps? fuzzy feeling inside your body right near the heart? Weakness of the knees? all this is magic to me, no tricks, no illusions, although i like your point, sometimes magic is real magic.
Silly_Girl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 *raises hand* We have been married three years, and each year is better than the last! Like it. Congrats!!!!
SidLyon Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 goosebumps? fuzzy feeling inside your body right near the heart? Weakness of the knees? all this is magic to me, no tricks, no illusions, although i like your point, sometimes magic is real magic. Ah if that's what you mean then yes I've felt it - but tricks and illusion are not worth falling for.
White Flower Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Yep' date=' and some even know how to keep it in their marriages.[/quote'] Snide snide snide. As if magic can and should only be experienced within the sanctity of M. Yes, TOWinNYC, I have felt this magic. I started a thread on it once. I'm happy for you, as anyone would be at this joyous time for you.
jennie-jennie Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 "What is it with us?" That is what my MM asked when that electrical charge of attraction was just going back and forth between us in the beginning of our reconnection. Magical for sure, and still is. :love:
cavedweller Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 NYC, I dated a woman and I was so happy in our relationship..For four years it was solid magic..(I thought she was my soulmate)..Then she met some other dude/jock and dumped me..Such is life. Go figure.
seren Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I love the magic feeling, the looking accross a room and we catch each other's eye and that familiar smile and 'oh there you are' feeling. The waking up and snuggling and feeling that this is the man I will be with for eternity, making dust with, the kiss at the back of my neck when he comes home and I am doing something. The feeling of belonging when we hug, I fit just right onto his chest and his arms fit just right when he hugs me. I cannot imagine this with anyone else, I believe in love at first sight, I remember the feeling of recognition when I first saw him and so did he, I still feel this after this long time and despite blips, still feel this. The magic is the icing on the cake, at times it can dip, but it is always there. I once saw an old couple sat on a bench watching the sun come down, they were holding hands and laughing. I spoke to them and he said they had done this from when they first met, had been together 60 yrs and this was their bench. She had Alzheimer's, but she knew this was their place and where she was happiest. I want that magic.
Dexter Morgan Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 my x-wife definitely felt the "magic" with her OM at the time (now her husband) but I didn't know that "magic" was also accompanied by a black eye.
TaraMaiden Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Magic, simply defined? Illusory, impermanent, wondrous and reality-masking. Oh and (edit) fun while it lasts. However: Name me one single thing, that isn't. (No, really, get your thinking caps on.... name me ONE.)
2sure Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 That "magic" that a MM must feel during an affair for it to satify him is what I counted on every time. I felt it too, but knew its worth.
silktricks Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Snide snide snide. As if magic can and should only be experienced within the sanctity of M. Whoa - exactly how is it snide to say: "Yep, and some even know how to keep it in their marriages." I still get tingly for my H - and I know he does for me . We have what I believe TIN is referring to as "magic". It seems that you're saying that magic can and should be experienced only outside of marriage. Is that what you are saying?
Gfkr2 Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I am battling that *spark* right now for a MW friend:love:. Thinking about all those who could affected by our choices....it is not an easy decision for me.
TaraMaiden Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 (Actually, it probably is.... but you may just not want to make it..... huh? )
Owl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 (Actually, it probably is.... but you may just not want to make it..... huh? ) And this is one of the most simple yet profound statements made here on LS in quite a while. The conflicts we create when we fight the choices that we know we need to make are the reason we see people here on LS all the time. When we stop fighting fighting and choose to make the choice we know we should rather than to blindly pursue what we WANT instead...we avoid a LOT of that conflict in our lives.
quankanne Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Name me one single thing, that isn't. (No, really, get your thinking caps on.... name me ONE.) on the outset, death. But there is a beauty and dignity even in that ... as for magic in a relationship ... pah! I don't subscribe to the "falling in love/being in love" thing, it's too subjective. However, what I probably would call "magic" is the sure feeling I've got for my husband, something I've never experienced with anyone else. Like we're on the same page, that he's "the other half of the orange" as a young Hispanic friend once called it, a sure feeling.
White Flower Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Whoa - exactly how is it snide to say: "Yep, and some even know how to keep it in their marriages." I still get tingly for my H - and I know he does for me . We have what I believe TIN is referring to as "magic". It seems that you're saying that magic can and should be experienced only outside of marriage. Is that what you are saying? Because she is implying that those who D or never marry don't know how. Some people just get lucky and don't know anything. Others get lucky and still have to work hard at staying M. Some work hard on their M while their spouse refuses to work on it. Those are the unlucky ones, but it doesn't mean they didn't know how to keep their M; it only means they didn't have a spouse willing to share in that work. If she didn't mean it that way, well all I can say is that's what you get when you over simplify your posts. I would never say that magic should be experienced outside of marriage only. Magic is magic (or love is love) and it should be experienced througout life whether M or not.
White Flower Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I love the magic feeling, the looking accross a room and we catch each other's eye and that familiar smile and 'oh there you are' feeling. The waking up and snuggling and feeling that this is the man I will be with for eternity, making dust with, the kiss at the back of my neck when he comes home and I am doing something. The feeling of belonging when we hug, I fit just right onto his chest and his arms fit just right when he hugs me. I cannot imagine this with anyone else, I believe in love at first sight, I remember the feeling of recognition when I first saw him and so did he, I still feel this after this long time and despite blips, still feel this. The magic is the icing on the cake, at times it can dip, but it is always there. I once saw an old couple sat on a bench watching the sun come down, they were holding hands and laughing. I spoke to them and he said they had done this from when they first met, had been together 60 yrs and this was their bench. She had Alzheimer's, but she knew this was their place and where she was happiest. I want that magic. Time to crack out The Notebook again so I can cry all night. This is a beautiful story. Thanks seren.
Author TOWinNYC Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 I once saw an old couple sat on a bench watching the sun come down, they were holding hands and laughing. I spoke to them and he said they had done this from when they first met, had been together 60 yrs and this was their bench. She had Alzheimer's, but she knew this was their place and where she was happiest. I want that magic. Seren - Wow this is beautiful. Kind of like that movie The Notebook! Very few people have this, I think. I want that magic too.
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