chenazah Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Hello fellow loveshackers! I have a few questions regarding rejection and how to cope with it. Ive known my gf for 11 years now and dated her 3 times, each time for around 2 years at a time. Its been a complicated journey. Without going into loads of detail - we have had different lives throughout these 11 years but always seemed to get back together. Today ive found out that she has been offered another job in a different country and has decided to take it. We have therefore split. As easy as that. I just would like to know: Why i cannot be happy for her? Why dont i want to stay friends with her? Why she chose a job over me and our relationship/future? I really dont get how one minute your making plans for the future, feel settled and happy. Then bang its over. How can someone do that? To top it off my brother/wife + kids are moving out to Australia next week. My brother is my best friend. So that makes - my mum, my dad, 2 brothers and now my girlfriend that have left me to move to another country. All my friends are settled and are married with kids. I have nothing and now one-one to turn to. Thats a sobering thought when i get home tonight.
BiAxident Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I know how you feel, my ex and I had started discussing what kind of a wedding we might like to have -- four weeks later she left me for another guy. I'm not sure how some people can change their minds so quickly, I can only hope that not everyone behaves in such a manner. But, if you're feeling lonely when you get home and need to talk to someone, we have a chatroom setup at http://tinychat.com/myrelationship
onthebrinkofitall Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Unfortunately, I think a lot of people ask that question. I am one of those people. I have no idea how someone can change their mind/heart so quickly. In my case, my STBXH is bipolar, so that's his excuse.. maybe your GF is too? Or maybe she's just focusing on her life.. commitment can be a scary thing for some people once it's more real and not just an idea anymore. IMO, you can't be happy for her because you're mad at her for not choosing YOU over her career. I'm not condemning you.. sometimes I pray for my ex to sprain an ankle or stub a toe. As far as being friends, it's hard to be friends with someone you love romantically. It's just too difficult sometimes. I'm sorry about your situation.. and I hope things get better for you. Keep posting on here.. it keeps you sane!
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