ingjerdj Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 How do you go about actually doing the break up???? I just want to write a letter, it seems so difficult to actually stare my BF in the face and say "Sorry, I don't love you anymore"....
UCFKevin Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 NO. Do not do a letter. Don't be a wuss about it. You've been with him for, what, 4 years? Anything past a few months deserves an in person break up. Give him that much. It would be insulting to do otherwise.
MarKus Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 One of my ex gf's broke up with me via text message. How evil is that. Do it face to face
dyermaker Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 Also, at the end of your breakup, say this, cruel as it may sound: "I have no interest in pursuing a romantic relationship with you, now or ever. Please understand this as the end"
UCFKevin Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 DEFINITELY. Do not leave a twinge of hope whatsoever. That's total common courtesy for his benefit and yours. It may sound rough, like Dyer said, but it's necessary. Good thinking, Dyer.
dyermaker Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 It DOES sound rough, but it will do so much more good than harm. He'll be shocked that you were so honest, but it's a lot better than him calling you every day thinking that somehow you'll take him back. I would consider it a courtesy to be assured of the relationship's end.
Arabess Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 See...I understand what you are saying about the letter thing. It IS HARD to break up face to face. I've pulled the "I need space" or the "I'm confused"....ANYTHING but just coming right out and saying it. I even have a hard time breaking a date.....much less a heart. These guys are right though. The best way to do it is to just come out and say it. I don't know your age.....but I'd have to soften the moment with a few beers.....LOL! Let me know what you end up doing or saying. I'll use it next time.....
morrigan Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 Good luck in such a tough situation! There is no way you can prevent him from feeling hurt or being upset with you. But it's better to be honest and upfront with your boyfriend and not to give him false hope. All I can add is don't ask to be friends at this point in time. You both need time and space from eachother.
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