It's finally over

[Betty7]

I've been in an on and off again relationship for the last two years and it has absolutely ruined me and my sense of ambition. He was younger than me by two years and things were ok but now that it's over low and behold he turns out to be an egotistical prick. You see the thing is we were best friends when we were together which was great for me because I don't have any friends but now that it's over he is fine because he is popular and successful and he has left me high and dry with no hope for the future. I just don't know where to go, what to do, or who I am anymore.

[LostInTurn]

Re read your post. You made many points. All things you seem to be aware of. From here, you should think about each point. You know what happened, you understand how you feel and who this person really is. Now it's about you and your well being. You cannot feel bad about this. You need to remember you were a part of the relationship as well. Relationships have two sides.

 

Each of us lost a friend due to a break-up. You need to remember who you were prior to all of this. Re claim yourself. Don't focus on the things about this person. What makes you, you? How are you going to be better? Lean on us. Tell us what you're thinking. That's what we're here for. Let yourself heal.

[TaraMaiden]

Excuse me, but....you attracted HIM, did you not? You had something he liked? He wanted?

Well guess what?

It's still there.

So why on earth you should think that it's impossible for you to move on and broaden your own circle of contacts, is beyond me.....

Just because he has friends is absolutely no reason whatsoever why on earth you should stay isolated.

 

he has left me high and dry with no hope for the future. I just don't know where to go, what to do, or who I am anymore.

 

What are you, 95!?

Look, if at 48 I managed to make a clean start and do something different, trust me, there's hope for you yet, hun......