juanms Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 Hi everyone, I need some good advice regarding my ex GF. She broke up about 3month ago saying that she is mixed up! We have been going out for about 5yrs. I asked her out for Valentine and excepted to be my date. We really had fun that night, that she called me in the morning to spend a day out. So we did and stayed together till the evening. Now she is saying that It is best if we don't go out together, just date each other for the time being. I really love her and wan t to marry her.How can I make things up with her? This thing of dating each other is worrying me. What shall I do?
ingjerdj Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 I think you need to give her some space if you want to keep her... don't scare her off! and don't act like a dog jumping when she says jump... because that is a complete turn off as well... women are tricky... we want kindness and consideration, but also space and a boyfriend with a backbone....
UCFKevin Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 Walk away. She's mixed up inside? No good will come from that. Not any time soon. Here's the problem: You walk away, she thinks you don't love her and she moves on. or You fight for her, she gets sick of it and annoyed and pushes you away and move on. Take the high road. Just walk away. Give her her space. It shouldn't be necessary but do it. Do your own thing. Don't be a love sick puppy when you see her or talk to her.
look forward Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 juanms sounds like your ex gf is confused and i dont mean to sound harsh but wants her cake and if you let her she'll be eating it... back off and give her space or you'll be dragged along for the ride and it'll all end in tears probably yours.. I know is tough but when someone is showing signs of uncertainty its best to give them a clear break so you are not used as a falling block.... you have to protect yourself and show her you have no restriants over her but also that she has no restraints over you.. Good luck
morrigan Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 When she said she just wanted to date you for now, she probably means she will go on dates with you until someone more interesting comes along. You can't have her back, and how long are you willing to put up with her hot and cold behavior towards you? If you wanted a committment/marriage with her, and she isn't willing to do this, it's better not to date her at all.
Author juanms Posted February 18, 2004 Author Posted February 18, 2004 Thanks for your help. Still I am confused what to do and what shall I tell her! We are suppose to meet tomorrow evening after work.
morrigan Posted February 18, 2004 Posted February 18, 2004 As far as your ex is concerned, you have two options: Keep going on dates with her, but don't expect any committment to come of it. She also may go out with other people. If she gets involved with someone else, she will stop seeing you. You can't "win her back", and wouldn't you rather be with someone who doesn't have to be persuaded to like you? If you don't want to deal with the above situation, break it off with her the next time you see her. Just be honest and tell her that you don't want to date her anymore because she isn't willing to make a committment. Good luck!
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