9Lives Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 guys, I know we are experiencing a tough times with the recent relationship ending. lord knows I can't talk about anybody but let me. what I recognize now is that some people realize that just like a rel is work...being happily single is work. its a choice. you have work on it. nobody can do it for you. for those who are still licking their wounds..i understand...give yourself time to grieve...but don't GET STUCK in the past long. so many people make that mistake. don't let it be you. there is life waiting for you.
USMCHokie Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Stamped and signed. But to be blunt, the first and most important step for anyone who's coping with a breakup is to decide that you have to pull your head from out of ass and stop looking at the past, stop analyzing the breakup, and start living your life again...you're not going to get anywhere moping around... I just wish someone would have told me that a year ago right after my breakup...
Author 9Lives Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 Stamped and signed. But to be blunt, the first and most important step for anyone who's coping with a breakup is to decide that you have to pull your head from out of ass and stop looking at the past, stop analyzing the breakup, and start living your life again...you're not going to get anywhere moping around... I just wish someone would have told me that a year ago right after my breakup... I lived in some kind of trans for almost three years off and on. my ex would come back then back off or I would do something..it was a crazy time in my life. he knew I wanted to get back together. he told me this year that we are not getting back together. I didn't believe him and continued to try and try and try and try. I was fk'ed up over a man who I didn't need just loved too damm much. I kept praying and I finally got a hold of a book called braking your addiction to a person. reading that book helped me resolved the rel for good. stop spining and spining and spinning in circles like a clown. some of you guys know you deserve a lot more. I knew I did but I could shake that HOPE HOPE HOPE HOPE!!!! SO FK'ED UP!!! when I got free, I was happy. I come on here to comfort myself and others. we can get back to enjoying life again. IT IS GONNA TAKE WORK..WORK! and baby steps are okay. give yourself credit..breaking up is hard..not easy. you want to move on? stay off facebook for a while. make a wish list of things you want for yourself, your home, your kids, your dog, whatever floats your boat. I'm 9Lives cause I'm like a cat..i will fall but get back on my feet. 8Lives now...lol I'm here for ya just like u were for me.
LostInTurn Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I agree. I think we spend a lot of time thinking about what was, and rightfully so. However, that will keep us in the past. Not a day goes by when I don't think 'I want me back'. I've lost my personality, heart and soul. I'm a good person. We all are. We need to get ourselves back. Its by no means an easy thing to do. I know that. We all think 'what if'. Well, what if you start remembering who you are and start being you again? Then what? Then we may actually start being happy. We can and will get through this. All the minutes we spend thinking about things we cannot control is so crazy. When I think about it I'm baffled. Its like we need to train ourselves how to think rationally again. Like we're just learning this and never knew before. I understand. One thing we cannot do is give up on ourselves. I don't even see myself when I look in the mirror anymore. Who else? I want to. I miss the person I used to see staring back at me.
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