Delacy Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I am in a LDR and my girlfriend has started to put off when we move in together by like 2 years, choosing family and friends first, what if at the end she breaks my heart and doesnt want to move in. Is she just wasting my time? should i finish with her? (she was all for us being together a couple of weeks ago) Thank you.
LostInTurn Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 (edited) I'm sorry you're going through this. I was in an LDR. He moved closer to me. We were going to move in together. He kept saying 'it will happen in time, we both want the same things'. I put a time line in my mind about it. I started to think it wouldn't happen, ever. You really need to evaluate what is going on before you make any decisions. You need to think about what you want. That's something I didn't do. When I say that to you, I mean I stayed. I didn't think about how I was feeling. How the other person was making me feel. He kept telling ME that I needed to just 'wait' because HE wasn't ready and that if I didn't push it would happen. You cannot let someone rule the relationship. Why is she not willing to move in now? Is the reason valid? How long has this topic been in discussion? Ask yourself these questions and honestly. Answer these questions honestly. This is your life. You obviously have an idea of what you're looking for from a relationship. You cannot put your life on hold. I did. The end result for me was constant upset and not being able to believe this person anymore. They are in complete control from the moment we agreed to give them as much time as they needed. Do you know what I mean? Edited August 26, 2010 by LostInTurn
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