GuybrushThreepwood Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Hey everybody, I posted here a few months back seeking advice and got some very good help so I'm back for more. I had a first date with a sweet gal last weekend. We met through a website, she messaged me first, we talked a bit, then exchanged numbers, and texted a bit each day. We finally arranged a time for a date. She met me at a bar and we played pool and had a few drinks. Everything went absolutely swimmingly. No nerves, no awkward pauses or gaps in the conversation. We were both witty and charming and had a ton of fun. Neither of us got drunk, had maybe two drinks each. I walked her back to her car in a now nearly empty parking lot. I kissed her immediately and she definitely was reciprocating. We made out for 10 minutes or so and stopped just short of dry humping in the parking lot. We both said afterwards that this was not typical for either of us, but that it felt right and the passion was great. We agreed to meet again but didn't set a definite time. The next day she texted me and I texted back, just some fun playful stuff. More of the same the following day, at which point we made plans for this thursday to hang again. The day after THAT she texted me again, just something small and playful, and I responded similarly. She didn't respond and later in the evening I sent another message, essentially asking how she was doing etc. I heard nothing back. Two days passed and I called her to make more definite plans for Thursday (like where and when to pick her up etc) but she didn't answer. I left a fun message for her and didn't think anything of it, I figured she was at work or asleep. That was a few days ago and I haven't heard anything. Where she had been texting me daily I now receive nothing. No return phone call, no more messages on the dating site (as her comp is broken apparently this doesn't surprise me). To recap, I had waaaay more fun with her than I thought I was going to, and we obviously had a lot in common and hit it off well. There was also obviously a lot of physical attraction there, and she must have enjoyed herself or she wouldn't have initiated contact with me so soon after the date. Now, I'm not totally hung up on this gal. I have other dates this week so i'm not desperate for her attention, but I can't stop thinking about her and this weird communication blackout. I can't think of any reason why she would be ignoring me short of her losing her phone or (god forbid) having been in an accident of some kind. What could be possibly be the issue here? We had tentative plans for tomorrow but unless I hear back I guess that ain't happening. Any input from you forumites? How long do I give her before I try to contact her again, if at all?
USMCHokie Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Any input from you forumites? How long do I give her before I try to contact her again, if at all? She met someone new through the dating site that she is more interested in. That's simply the nature of online dating. You don't need to contact her ever again. You left several texts and a voicemail, all of which she never responded to. She's not interested anymore. Move along and enjoy meeting the new girls on those other dates of yours.
meerkat stew Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 What Hokie says could be true, and it could also be that whatever spat with whomever that sent her to the dating site in the first place has been resolved. Have experienced this on a couple of occasions also, as OP describes, and have come to believe that because the attention is so immediate, easy and a mouse click away, that many of the women you see on dating sites are already involved, just in the middle of an argument, on a break, whatever, with an existing SO. This is one reason I try to watch women's profiles for a week or so before Emailing to reduce the chances that they just hopped on the site for a few days to get some attention while involved in a spat.
bobdole Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 She met someone new through the dating site that she is more interested in. That's simply the nature of online dating. You don't need to contact her ever again. You left several texts and a voicemail, all of which she never responded to. She's not interested anymore. Move along and enjoy meeting the new girls on those other dates of yours. Agreed on every point pretty much.
PhillyDude Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 she may have gotten hit by a bus-lol happened to me last month
sagetalk Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 What Hokie says could be true, and it could also be that whatever spat with whomever that sent her to the dating site in the first place has been resolved. Have experienced this on a couple of occasions also, as OP describes, and have come to believe that because the attention is so immediate, easy and a mouse click away, that many of the women you see on dating sites are already involved, just in the middle of an argument, on a break, whatever, with an existing SO. This is one reason I try to watch women's profiles for a week or so before Emailing to reduce the chances that they just hopped on the site for a few days to get some attention while involved in a spat. Excellent points. There are very few attractive women in this world that are TRULY single with no other guys interested. Sometimes, especially in online dating, you will talk to girls who are trying to use you to wake up a guy she really wants. At any rate, this girl is definitely talking to another guy. Let her go for now.
PhillyDude Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Excellent points. There are very few attractive women in this world that are TRULY single with no other guys interested. Sometimes, especially in online dating, you will talk to girls who are trying to use you to wake up a guy she really wants. At any rate, this girl is definitely talking to another guy. Let her go for now. You just reminded me why I think FOOTBALL is more sexy than WOMEN.
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