Lost Fish Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Hi All, Posting in this forum for the first time - usually you can find me in the break-ups and coping forums, but I guess you could say I'm moving on now, lol. Anyway I met an amazing girl off of a dating site last week - we had our first "meet" last week, and it was a little awkward, but there was definitely a spark and the attraction seems real. We kissed a bit at the end of the night and then I could really feel the sparks flying. I drove home extremely pumped up, lol. The next few days I texted a bit with her and we've talked a couple times on the phone. She's a bit hard to read, but I still sense her interest is high. It's in that awkward phase where I don't want to text or call too often or anything. So, our first real date is tomorrow night. We're going to go to this nice restaurant where a friend of mine works that has great food and lovely ambiance for a date. I'm in a phase in life right now where I am pretty sure about myself and happy with where I'm at, and I know meeting the right girl would be fantastic - we have a lot in common as far as interests and worldviews are concerned sooo... I guess I just don't wanna flub it up. I haven't really dated in about 3 years or so after my last relationship ended and I just feel a bit lost to the whole game. She lives about 45 minutes away from me, so we are meeting up at this place which is about midway for the both of us. I know it's only the second date, but I am pretty excited about her and just want to go into it totally prepared for success. Thanks in advance all!
kickintheaz Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Thanks for posting this, on no 2 myself in less than 24 hours..so I'll be keeping an eye out!!! I could've written that post too (bar the kissing on date 1) but like you am nervous of too much/too little contact, we had a good chat tonight to confirm plans for tomor bite to eat at a fab burger place we both love... so similarly, I can sense she interested, but not sure how much at this stage... the tips and tricks i've been given are all common sense, be yourself, follow on from last conversation/last date, remember the little things she told you e.g. any family things going on, good things in work, or a hobby, girl I'm meeting hurt her ribs and just casually mentioned it, just those things that you take for granted every day of the week with family and friend interactions that show a. you care and b. you LISTEN!.. confidence and happiness, smile, a lot! eye contact, everything from date 1 that made her agree to date 2.. if you're happy with where you are in life, that'll show through.. its a confusing 'game' but a necessary evil, I've been making jokes bout 'how we can do that next time' and the like and gaining agreement, whether it comes to pass I hope so obviously but I can't go in tomorrow automatically expecting a 3rd encounter... hmm, this could be interesting, a fellow LSer at the same point in dating 'time'....
Author Lost Fish Posted August 25, 2010 Author Posted August 25, 2010 Haha! Yeah, I've been hearing all the same stuff as well. I haven't talked to her yet today, but will reconfirm plans with her later tonight. I think the key is confidence. I had a good day at work today and really came through for one of my major accounts, which has me feeling pretty awesome. Hopefully I can ride the wave into tomorrow's date and exude some of that energy. As far as the kissing - I was honestly shocked. I went in for the hug at the end of our meet, and it just sort of happened. And oh lord, it was nice, lol. So... that's a good sign. There's definitely a mutual attraction. Good luck on your date too Kickintheaz! I'll most likely post again how things go, good or bad.
kickintheaz Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Good man... am on a similar high today.. however I tried calling her last night to confirm, as arranged, no answer and no reply.. Cue mental over analysing anguish... I was in a serious 'fck her' mood by the time I went to bed, woke up in crap form, just expecting it to be cancelled, and at 8am she emailed to tell me she'd had a phone problem.. :bunny: benefit of the doubt being given (in case anyone posts she was on a date etc etc), she is absolutely shattered from the last few days, yet when she called tonight she was adamant we're going in a 'no, I'd really like to' kind of way!.. me did the peck on the cheek the last time, didn't wanna be scaring the girl off or rushing things, sure there'll be plenty of time for kissing! (starting tomorrow!! ha ha.. I feel 17 again!) excellent, well I shall keep an eye out for you so and share my experience... and good luck to us both sir, good luck to us both!
lab_brat Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 That's fantastic, good luck! Don't be nervous, just go in with a smile, looking forward to the fantastic food and getting to know someone special better. And the kissing is good too Let us know how the second date goes, both of you, we desperately need more positive stories here to give the rest of us hope!!!!
kickintheaz Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 That's fantastic, good luck! Don't be nervous, just go in with a smile, looking forward to the fantastic food and getting to know someone special better. And the kissing is good too Let us know how the second date goes, both of you, we desperately need more positive stories here to give the rest of us hope!!!! No pressure Lost Fish but I think we're gonna become LS poster boys for happy endings... D'OH !!!!!! btw, lab rat! THANK YOU!!!!
lab_brat Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 No pressure Lost Fish but I think we're gonna become LS poster boys for happy endings... D'OH !!!!!! btw, lab rat! THANK YOU!!!! bwahaha, got that right, all my hopes are on you guys, if you fail me now i'm gonna give up all hope, shave my head and move to addis ababa to become a snake handler. No pressure though
Author Lost Fish Posted August 25, 2010 Author Posted August 25, 2010 Haha. Aw lab brat, you're too kind. Honestly, I'm just happy to be over my ex and out dating again. My self-esteem definitely took a hit at the ending of the last relationship. I finally felt ready to get out there and seeing that there are still beautiful amazing women available in the world kind of renewed my heart and myself. I did all the steps to get past my ex - kicked my body into shape, took up singing again, focused at work... started feeling good about ME again. You have to carry that attitude into the date of "I am awesome, and no matter how this goes tonight, I will still be awesome..." Seriously, it works, lol. Women love confident dudes. ;P And there will be no snake handling in your future lab brat!
lab_brat Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 well, a little bit of snake handling is fine, maybe not a viable career option though... That's so awesome, i'm happy for you. And yeah, confident guys = very sexy. I bet you'll have a great time. I never realized there was a breakups and coping forum on here?? (clearly i'm not the brightest cookie) , i think i might go have a look - i haven't not been dating as I'm still not really over my last relationship, sounds like it might be a useful place. Thanks xoxo
AverageJoe Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I guess the question was in the topic. I normally dont agree with dinner dates, but it is what it is. Let her do most all of the talking, keep the conversation going of course, but know that anything you say can and will be held against you. Oh, and dont pay for all the dates with a credit card. (see other thread) Good luck!
kickintheaz Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 stick the snake handling on an online dating profile and I'm yours *he says as he swaggers across the room* Lost Fish, that one line: "I am awesome, and no matter how this goes tonight, I will still be awesome..." is exactly what should be taken into EVERY date, be it date 2 or date 252.... good on you and thanks!!! lab rat, stop putting yourself down (thats our job! lol!).. its a great forum and helped me (and I am guessing Lost Fish) a LOT... some fantastic stuff in there.... well recommendable...
lab_brat Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 *Bump* *ahem... i'm waiting here with bated breath and a pocket full of rattlesnakes, gentlemen......., how did you guys go?*
Author Lost Fish Posted August 27, 2010 Author Posted August 27, 2010 **ahem** lab my love, sadly not so good. Looks like we both got flaked on! Read kick's thread here for updates from both of us, lol: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t243308/ ok it's 3 AM here and I'm up WAY too late, lol...
lab_brat Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 awww, stupid damm girls! Don't know what they're missing out on xoxoxox
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