I am a guy Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Before I can even ask a girl out for a date (I try to get to know them first), they tell me that they arent interested in me via text message or email. I would appreciatce it if they would reject me in person, but no one has yet and it makes me feel worse. I dunno if I want to try to get dates anymore. I'm going to be a sophmore in college if that helps.
Green Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Before I can even ask a girl out for a date (I try to get to know them first), they tell me that they arent interested in me via text message or email. I would appreciatce it if they would reject me in person, but no one has yet and it makes me feel worse. I dunno if I want to try to get dates anymore. I'm going to be a sophmore in college if that helps. Most girls are going to REJECT you just because thats the way things go when you are a guy in college. Don't let it get you down. You shouldn't have expectations when getting to know some one because they can sense your hidden agenda... just be yourself. Really being yourself would probably mean facing REJECTION had on and stop being scared. Be the version of yourself that has fun being in a girls presence. The version of yourself that has no hidden agendas and makes romantic intentions known through flirting, touching, and ASKING THE GIRL OUT. You never have to tell a girl "I LIKE YOU" because it is much better to show a girl you like her by 1) ASKING HER OUT 2) KISSING HER before the date is over. (don't ask just kiss) I think you expect to much from these girls. Most girls won't even send you a txt... they just start ignoring you. If you think about it you havn't been completly upfront yourself I mean I find it cowardly to hide or postpone your romantic intentions to try to get to know a girl. You need to get to know her romanticly to see if you are a good romantic match. Getting to know a girl as a friend is not the same as getting to know her romanticly. Enjoy dating and stop putting everything on the results. I didn't learn this for myself untill the summer after I graduated from college. I was 22 when I got my first kiss. Basicly you are your own worst enemy when it comes to relationships with women and you just need to sit back, relax, stop caring about results and enjoy yourself in your interactions with women. Most importantly BE YOURSELF and don't be AFRAID to show your romantic interest in a girl you like. You could, with a big grin on your face, tell the next girl you like: 'I think you're interesting but if you ever feel differently about me, could you, at least, tell me to my face? I tend to lose respect for people who don't have the guts to be decent about things like that and I never want to lose respect for you.' Then smile sweetly and do something drop-dead charming for her, or summat. x This is poor advice and involves him bringing baggage from his pasts hurts into a new relationship. It would be like telling some one "I hate cheaters and if you were a cheater I would lose respect for you" its kinda a given. Really I think he should stop carring so much what other people think and do.
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