lola123 Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I've been having trouble making friends since I started college. In high school, I had a group of friends that I had been friends with for years so I never had to try to make friends. Now, I'm trying to make friends with these two people, each from a class I have. I get together with one or the other and we have a great time (watching a movie, eating lunch...) and we usually talk about doing something next time, like going to see this movie or trying this place. When we part, she says she will call me. I wait for her to call, but she doesn't. I always have to be the one to call and initiate the plans. Both of them seem open to doing something when I suggest it and we enjoy ourselves together when we meet. Still, I am always the one who has to initiate and it's making me feel like they don't want this. Like each of them is too busy with other friends and isn't interested with making other friends. This seems to be a problem with everyone I meet, too. They are never the ones to suggest something and if I don't text/call, they don't. What is going on and what should I do?
green_tea Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Sometimes, you can get into a pattern of one person always being the initiator - that could be what's happened here. These people know that you will call, and so even when they say they will, they just wait for you to do it first. Or it's always possible that they are not as interested in the friendship as you are. Next time your friend says she will call you - you could respond by saying ok, you organise the details, and let me know, I'll wait for your call/text. That is pretty clear - and if they don't contact you again, then you know they just can't be bothered in keeping the friendship going.
bubbles5 Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Why do u have to hang around this two girls only? You could find other ppl whom u could make friends n who would really respect you and give time to you. I would say you should give less attention to ppl who would take you 4 granted may be they will realize later that they were missing out a good friend that is you. I would say next time if they say they will call and dont call u , dont initiate from your side. Sometimes u just have to find other friends who would really appreciate you.
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